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writes: I am in my late twenties and have been with my boyfriend for almost 6 months..it's the best relationship i think i could ever be in. We both truly love each other and things have been going great. He treats me very nicely and is affectionate and open with how he feels.I am worried i am going to mess it up..sometimes i get thoughts in my head after our texts or even phone calls wondering if he is as excited as he was in the beginning to talk, see me etc etc..i know a relationship has that honeymoon phase and all but i guess it still makes me a tiny bit worried and i dont want it to affect my mood or ability to be the same person i was when he first met me which was always having a good time with him, laughing, being easy going etc.If i don't see him for a few days i miss him b/c we are more attached to each other and i am semi quiet usually that first night b/c i feel like it's been awhile since i have seen him (we don't live super close and with work it's better to wait towards the end of the week and the weekends)Should i try to remain the person I was and not worry so much? He has been working more hours lately and calls me on his way home but he is usually just very tired and the conversations don't seem as mushy like I miss you etc etc..i am probably just being silly and insecure right?What are you thoughts?
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reader, Sonal Kuplish  +, writes (1 March 2013):
hi dear
you mentioned that you feel that your boyfriend is not as excited as he was earlier.. Well there could be reasons for it..
May be he is a little held up at work .. Or sometimes guys are not so expressive as girls are.. They do love you and care for you but sometimes they just don't know how to express that love..at times he may not speak to you the way he did earlier..but that doesn't mean that he is not interested.. Give him more time and space..I am sure he will understand that at times you need him.. but do give this relationship your 100% and i am sure things will get back to normal..Right now just enjoy this period
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2013): Don't try and be anything OP. Just relax, everything is going really well. Stop looking for problems when there are none.
This is the part of your relationship you're supposed to enjoy, you have no idea how things will work out in the future so you have to enjoy the now.
Cheer up, it might never happen and if it does you'll want to be able to look back and say you enjoyed it, not look back and say you couldn't enjoy it because you were always worried.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (1 March 2013):
 Yes, you are being silly and insecure. This is part of the natural progression of the relationship. Don't worry, in fact, it's a good sign that your relationship is evolving past that honeymoon phase.
Don't try to be someone you're not. If you're not that person you were at the beginning, don't pretend to be. Be who you are. The more honest you are with yourself and him, the more honest your relationship will be in the long run.
That said, a mushy "I miss you" is nice to hear sometimes. It's not bad form to remind him that you like to hear those little sentiments from time to time. If he is the guy you've painted him to be, he'll probably do it because he knows it will make you happy. A good partner wants the other's happiness after all.
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