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*eforyou
writes:I keep wanting my boyfriend to be with me all the time and I think it's annoying him. We've been together just over 2 years. The thing is I always worry about him and ask him to let me know when he gets where he's going. I've worried so much before that it's made me feel sick and I don't like him going out anywhere without me because I worry. I feel like I am going mad because I think if I don't worry about him then something will happen to him. Please help me, I am only 20 and don't want to drive him away. I love him so much but think I rely on him too much. We also have a 5 month old son. Reply to this Question
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reader, meforyou +, writes (8 October 2008):
meforyou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have asked him to help me in th past but e says e doesn't know how. I dont think even i know. i dont think its fear of being left with th baby. i was like this with my mom b4 i went out with him. fank u all 4 ur gr8 answers tho, i'll let u know ow i get on, any more answers please let me know :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 October 2008):
You need to figure out why you are being so clingy and needy. Why is it that you need him to be "safe". Is it a fear of being left alone with the baby?
My husband is in Iraq right now and could be under his desk in a mortar attack this very second. But I am not worried. I know the chances of him getting hurt are there but they are small and I distract myself because I know being worried all the time would drive me insane.
You sound like one of those women who would make a baby wake up and cry to check it's still breathing.
Next time you go to ask him where he is going, or to worry about him, stop, take a breath, and ask yourself do you really need to know?
Tell him you want to change and ask him to think of ways to help you.
If you can't adjust on your own then maybe hypnotherapy or something might help you to not freak out so much all the time.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, meforyou +, writes (7 October 2008):
meforyou is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for taking your time to answer i'll give it a try
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reader, ChangePlease  +, writes (7 October 2008):
Don't tell him your worried about him. Such actions and words just re-inforce the negative in a man's mind. Find a constructive way of dealing with your worries, or even examine why they are there and if they are legitimate.
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