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writes: I work w my exboyfriend. We broke up a couple weeks ago because he was acting weird and I didn't trust him but work was fine. He swore he hadn't been with anyone new, I didn't really beleive it but I slept with him again the other day anyway. It was different (he was different) a big sign for me. When he fell asleep I checked his cell and saw calls and texts between him and a female manager @ our work her promising she could never tell anyone and him saying it was a false alarm and I don't know. I always suspected something there and confronted him many times while we were together and more after because she always followed him around @ work. Months earlier his roomates (who we also work w)told me they had heard them sleeping together, he denied it. She confronted me yesterday for telling people they were sleeping together, she denied it and was very beleivable. They both denied it to our head manager and said the messages were about a confidental work issue (which our head manager said was possible). I still want to believe they were together just for my pride and my gut instinct the whole time we were together, lets just say it would explaine a lot. She's known for lying and sleeping w many guys around work and has confessed to 3 and when I broke up w him his first question was "Does it start w a 'K'?" ...her name starts w a K. He hasn't called me or talked to me and in days and we work together for the first time tomarrow. I know they'll both deny it forever due to our policy @ work. I just want to know if you think I'm crazy or a good detective? Do I go to work tomarrow w/ an apologiy or my pride?
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reader, ke11y1 +, writes (5 August 2006):
ke11y1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well unfortunatly, I didn't listen to the advice given. I went to work and apologized to them both. I realized I put both their jobs in jeperdy and I felt a little crazy for the whole thing becoming such a big deal, after all I had no concrete proof.Being the overly nice overly sorry person I am, I tried to clear their names to people at work. As I began to do so, the reaction I received was so suprising! Basically everyone at work told me I would have to be stupid or in serious denial to convince myself of anything else. Then I began to hear story upon story about them even from the people at work who NEVER get inolved in personal issues. Basically as my coworkers and I began to talk I realized I work in a disgusting sest pool!One guy even told me that he was sleeping with that girl (nobody knew this) at the time of me and my ex, and that my ex was always calling her drunk at like 2am while she was with my coworker! But they stopped sleeping together a while ago. Another couple of stories I heard were regaurding a regional manager from Cali that he had a suspicious relaionship with him (which I also suspected) while we were together. And I finally figured out why him and his ex broke up, which was becasue he was caught sleeping with another girl upstairs while she was downstairs.I've yet to confront him on the new 'evidence' but I do feel very cheated and batrayed as a matter of fact it's almost become an obsession. I can't stop thinking about it. Which sucks because I was almost over it before the whole text message thing. I guess I learned my lesson about really wanting to know the truth. It almost would've been for the best if I hadn't known and never checked his cell. He called me the other night and said he decided he wanted to talk to me. I basically said I was busy and couldn't hear it at the time but we could talk another day. I made some schedule changes at work and have been able to avoid the situation for a week! (by the way I am a server in a resraunt)I scheduled an STD test and I've taken steps to find a new job involved in my career so I should be able to cut my hours soon or quit and begin to put this behind me.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 Move on as you have broken up with him and if is sleeping with her than you have nothing to say about it. He can sleep with whomever he likes. You let him go so now you need to go and if you had someone of your own you wouldn't be concerned with him. Why should he call you or text you? YOU BROKE UP WITH HIM!!! You no longer have those priveledges. Make yourself happy and move on. Go out and get a life of your own and stop worrying about his. I'm sorry if I seem harsh but thats just what you need right now. Good Luck.
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reader, camille  +, writes (1 August 2006):
 Neither! I think whatever you're told, you don't believe either of them and so it almost doesn't matter what's true or not. BUT you don't think they've been honest, so why should you be the one to apologise? I'm not sure you will have your pride if they've done this, but if you can, go in their with your head held high. If she had the cheek to confront you and has done something, don't give her the last laugh. Show them both you couldn't care less and will be nobody's fool. It sounds like they're up to something and if that's what you think, stay well clear of both unless you need to discuss a business matter. Don't sleep with him again either. Move on. My only confusion is, you split up with him so why should he talk to you or call you? And what policy at work? That you can't sleep with co-workers? Well, er, what have YOU been doing with him?!
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reader, tonsta +, writes (1 August 2006):
your pride simple as that! move on and be happy
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