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writes:Hey guys, i am 20 yrs old and i work for a 40 yr old man (he is married with two kids and his daughter is only 2 yrs younger then me!!) Him and his wife are seperating and may even be getting a divorce. When i first started working with him i thought nothing of him, just as a boss, but the last couple months we have become really close. Not in a sexual way at all but we talk about everything and he comes over to my place sometimes and we will just visit and talk and laugh, and i have a one yr old and he is so sweet to her. I am really starting to like him and its scaring the crap out of me cuz there is such a big age difference!! He is VERY nice to EVERYONE and is big on church and me too, but i just feel like there is something there. I dunno what to do at ALL and if im just thinking stupid or what... What do I do?????
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reader, rcn +, writes (9 September 2007):
 I'd wait until the divorce is final before acting on your feelings for him. It's hard enough to go through a divorce. It's even harder if there's changes in circumstances, like a new girlfriend (20 years younger). You don't want to get caught in the middle, or become an issue in the divorce. Remember until it's final, it's still adultery and it could damage his case.
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reader, legacy +, writes (31 August 2007):
I think Tellulah is right, make sure he is getting separated/divorced first then go forward. Otherwise you will be in the middle of that whole drama and it won't be pretty. I'm twenty years older than my wife and it's really not an issue. Our issues are more about the usual husband and wife things. If age seems like one of them then it's not going to go away. If you like him and love him and he loves you, it will work for you. But first find out if he is looking for either an affair or friendship or a partner. P.S. don't just expect him to tell you, see how he acts. Remember we old guys get trickier as we age to stay in the game.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Hi,
Him and his wife are seperating, but they havnt yet do you mean?. How do you know this, did he tell you or do you know this for a fact.
I would not go near him until he is properly seperated, otherwise you are going to get the blame for the split, and thats not the way to start if you can help it.
The age gap should'nt matter to you, so what if its twenty years. You can bet he will take good care of you. There is a saying "better to be an old mans princess, than a young guys slave".
Just make sure he is not telling you porky's (thats lies in english) good luck and take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): If you both feel something for each other and the age gap doesn't bother you then go for it. Who cares what other poeple say or think if you are both happy that is what is more important.Good luck
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