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writes:Hey guys! Need some real advice on this matter.I started dating a guy about 7 weeks ago. I met him last year at random and we would just check in from time to time. One day he asked me out for ice cream and the rest is history.. Anyway, I noticed that at first, he would text me quite a bit and FaceTime call me every evening. At the beginning, I knew I liked him as a friend but I wasn’t all the way into him yet, so I didn’t feel a ton of pressure, I would call and text him first sometimes too without a second thought. We would hang out all the time and one day It just hit me that I liked him and I got really scared.Scared because, I knew I wanted to be more than just dating, I wanted to be his girlfriend. I finally got the courage to tell him that’s what I wanted, and he told me he wanted the same thing but didn’t want to rush, which was okay with me.I expected him to run as fast as he could at the mention of a relationship but that didn’t happen, he still stuck around, still went on dates, still called every night, but recently I noticed a change..It seems like he hardly EVER text me anymore. And when he does, he’s very short with me. I feel like I’m the one texting him and calling him and most of the time he doesn’t answer my calls but he’ll text me or he’ll call me back like 4 or 5 hours later. He seems a bit more inconsiderate as well. The other day he told me he was going to pick me up from my house in 45 mins. Almost 3 hours pass and I hear nothing from him.. I’m worried something bad happened so I go to his house to check on him, just to find out he was home and fine. The story goes that he got a nail in his tire and had to fix it and just left his phone in his house and didn’t think to call and tell me because he didn’t want me to worry and didn’t think it was a big deal.. I saw the tire myself, so I know that’s true, but why he couldn’t send a text is beyond me.He told me how sorry he was and said he’d never do it again. He also followed me back to my house that night, apologized to my family for making me worry and then slept over. Despite how angry I got at him that night, we’re still dating and he told me he wanted me to be his gf but wanted to ask in an extravagant gesture.I thought that things would get better after this, but still, we don’t text much, and we still talk on the phone every night and hang out often but I sometimes wonder if by expressing the way he makes me feel is pushing him away. When we’re together, we still have a great time but in the back of my mind I’m wondering if he is losing interest in me. I asked him yesterday if he felt like I was pushing him away and he said no, but I don’t know if I believe him. I decided I was just gonna stop the calling and texting and let him reach out to me..But ultimately, I’m wondering if I’m overreacting or if my suspicions are right. I don’t know if it’s because he’s home from college for spring break, therefore he’s busier than usual? Or if he really is just losing interest in me? Should I just pull away or end things altogether?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice... I’m not sure why the question was changed to say he was my “boyfriend” but to be clear, he’s not my boyfriend just yet.. We are still hanging out often and talking every night but the texting and calling is what really bugs me. We hung out last night and then all day today I don’t hear from him. I finally called him at 9pm and he tells me he was about to call me. We talked for a little while but and then he said he would call me right back, but yet it’s been well over an hour. Which isn’t a problem but more than likely he’s gonna call me back in a few hours with a story of all the things he ended up having to do OR he’s just not gonna call me at all and tomorrow he’ll say he “thought” I was asleep. I wish it didn’t bother me but it’s incredibly annoying.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 March 2018):
 I don't think he is losing interest. I just think he's slow to heat up and he falls in love in his own time and professes love in his own way. Some people, especially guys, don't revolve their life around relationships and that is okay. I would worry more if his life is not busy and is unmotivated about his studies and the future. You don't have to text all the time, or else it would get tiring. He might feel pressured to make stuff up in the text and you would soon run out of the stuff to write. As long as there is conversation every night, he's not losing interest.
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