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writes: Hi. I have a problem. I believe that if i become skinnier that people will become more attracted to me. I am 5 7" age:16 and i weigh 137 pounds. so i have started to become bulimic i dont do it everyday though just when i feel like i have eating too much. can someone honestly tell me how to lose more weight other than saying its not healthy and stuff i just want to feel attractive.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Your weight is ideal for your height. As for perging, isnt good at all. Or starving yourself, not good either! What makes you think that you're fat? Im 5ft 4" and I am 135lbs. I dont think im fat at all. I know Im not! Im medium built and I wouldnt look right if I were skinnier. Guys like girls that have meat. They dont like those skinny, boney, weak type girls. Your trying to lose weight the wrong way! First of all you're not fat. But if you want to look more fit, like be or show a little muscle, you could eat foods that contain protien and do some simple excersises like jogging, doing a little weight lifting. Or if you get bored of doing those kinds of excersis and dont feel like doing them, you could also order a dancing video and having fun dancing, it wont seem like your excersing, but you are and you'll have fun doing it. Walk your dog if you have one (thats fun) Dont be so worried about trying to lose weight. Your fine. Try to find some fun activities to do so you wont be so stressed by the thought of having to excersise ( i know that its tiresome and boring) Go swimming, thats fun excersise. Ride a bike, thats fun excersise. Join your schools basketball team. Thats fun and you wont think of it as excersing, you'll think of as a fun game. Drink plenty of water and eat healthy, though a slice of pizza isnt bad every once and a while. Think positive. Dont think your fat because you're not. Take a picture of yourself and look at your picture and you'll see that you're not fat. Everybody has a different body and are built differently. You shouldnt worry so much about it unless you're obese or obviously over weight. Oh and one last thing, Please spend less time looking on the weight scale! They are only numbers and dont mean a thing. If you feel healthy thats because you are and means your ok. Please dont perge anymore. I hope this helps.
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Well your not really fat at all to be honest your already at your ideal body weight for your height, work out abit at the gym or at home and tone some muscle and i can tell you that guys love a well sculpted body.
I had similar thoughs about my weight and looks when i was your age and younger , for 6 years i would not eat anything maybe have a meal for dinner but nothing else, my stomach has gotten so small now that it just looks wrong, it wish now i had of maybe taken up sport or something instead.
Please dont do this, you will end up killing yourself or ruining your life, i know trust me ok, now my hips and rips stick out no matter how much i eat and to be totally honest with you i cant each much, sometimes i even struggle to eat one slice of pizza because i feel so full,im making a turn in my life now, but its going to be hard to make myself strong again mentally and physically, im at the gym now alot trying to gain weight and muscle and im now at a healthy 110 pounds height 5'4, only a couple of years ago i was at 90 to 94 pounds, and i was not even fat when i started to starve myself i was probably not even 110 pounds, i was getting picked on for being too skinny and because i was starving myself it effected my work and school life, id miss alot of school due to no energy and i sometimes passed out at work and i could not concentrate at all, please i beg you not to keep doing this, its not worth it.
Its sad as people do judge on appearances but most people see past that and will be more instrested in who you are and not your size, and as i have learnt people would prefer to get to know someone who takes pride in there appearance by keeping themselves fit and healthy and enthusiastic about life instead of someone is is slowly killing themselves and puking up after a dinner.
doing this is not going to make you happier or make you more popular or what ever, i know because thats how i use to think that aswell, trust me when i made the decision to become healthy and change my lifestyle ,then my social crowd expanded and i even got a wonderful bf. you keep this up by the time you hit 21 you will be laying in a bed at a institution for bulimic people being feed some disgusting liquid food, do you really want that? or would you rather be out living life?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): Cardio exercises like cycling, running, dancing, climbing, etc will help you burn off calories and keep you fit. Do NOT cut down on meals, because your body need a balance of nutrients, proteins, carbs, etc to help keep your immune system and metabolism in working order. Also I have to point out that at 5-7 weighing 137 pounds isn't a problem. It's not even a problem. Your dilemma is over-rated.
Personally, I prefer my woman with some meat. I find skinny girls less appealing, unless they are fit with some muscle. My ex was near 120 pounds and she was 5-4. I found her to be extremely delicious... 8]
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): Just wanted to let you know that throwing up after meals won't help you become attractive. When you throw up acid passes throh your mouth which rots and yellows teeth. Personally, I would like a slightly bigger figure than a girl with yellow and decaying teeth. Think about that.
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reader, bonym  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 My dear being thin is not necessarily the way to be attractive, I mean there are but thousands of bigger ladies and girls who are gorgeous if not moreso than stick thin people. My dear I am a uk size 8 (US 4) on top, uk size 10 bottom, I used to be a uk size 6 (US 2) and I tell you, not one guy used to find me attractive, I actually felt uglier when I was so thin, now I have marginally put on weight, I get more attention. Some guys, boys men etc like bigger women, whats so great about being thin? I personally cant see whats so good about it, I like myself more now my legs are bigger, my bottom is bigger, everything feels better. My friend, dont be so anxious to lose weight to feel prettier, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, if you were thin, some boys may like you, yet others wont. Everyone has their own tastes. Be happy just the way you are. You are beautiful. xXx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Being attractive definitely isn't about being thin - that is just a media view on the matter! People who are obsessive about their weight are just not much fun to be around as they don't want to eat socially, and don't have the energy for living a good life.
You have to remember that people are attracted to personality as much as looks. Your weight is perfectly acceptable and within normal range for a person of your height. Bulmia is a nasty self-destructive disease that is definitely not attractive - it makes your teeth rotten, it upsets your fertility, it makes your skin bad, your hair goes very dry, you can develop problems with your endocrine gland system and you can get premature heart disease. The recipe to feeling attractive is to develop some self confidence and to address the depression which is at the heart of eating disorders. It is all about self acceptance as the opposite sex are attracted to people who are happy with themselves, and not insecure about issues. My weight jo jo's because of a medical condition but I don't see my husband packing his bags everytime I put on the pounds. If anyone calls you fat then you should remember that they are just a bit sad (in every meaning of that word!) and lashing out at you because they feel bad about themselves.
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