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writes: My bf has a shaved pussy fetish. I met his needs, but it bleeds a lot when i shave and it stings. I want to keep it up for him though. What do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, addavis8 +, writes (30 May 2006):
 I understand your motivations to please your partner, I prefer my girlfriend when she is clean shaven Although, she has her own personal hair hatred similar to bonym's. Anyway, your boyfriend is most likely oblivious to the problem (sounds like something I would never notice cause I am a bit of a dumb bloke myself).
Anyway, I suggest telling him about the problem, I doubt he wants you to be in pain so unnecessarily and all the methods provided by fellow female aunt agonies seem to provide alternatives.
On a lighter note,
I shave my body for swimming and I can relate to all you ladies more than the average guy. Perhaps giving him a haircut would extract some sweet, and silly revenge... Hope your unfortunate caper sorts itself out. Best of luck!
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reader, mystify +, writes (26 May 2006):
 if you shave too regulary it will bleed and hurt, and also look bad, save it for them special occasions, or at least no more than once a week!
it wont hurt and will look better, and the growth will still be tame compared to au naturel;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): i would try waxing.
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reader, lisa_01  +, writes (24 May 2006):
 My bf and i had the same problem, but a visit to the chemist i was able to come across a special cream and shaver made just for shaving that area and it works like a charm, no more bleeding or pain and it last just as long as a wax would and if used over a long peroid of time it eventually removes hair for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2006): Very nice from you to please your partner but don't put too much stress on yourself. You should take care. If it hurts you this will spoil your act. Also because you are dealing with very sensitive area.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (23 May 2006):
There are more comfortable and safer ways of depilation, so if shaving makes you bleed don't do it. May I point out it really shouldn't make you bleed tho unless you accidentally nick yourself.
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reader, bonym +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Without being rude can I ask, are you mad? Why are you gonna inflict pain on yourself for the sake of your fella? You are obviously not shaving with enough care and attention or you may have incredibly sensitive skin. If you are going to shave down there, which I do all the time because I hate hair anywhere except on my head you need to use a decent razor Venus by Gillette are really good and you should use shaving foam because it protects the dermis i.e your skin and prevents bumbs and itching etc. I also use an epilator with a pain softner on my bikini line, but the razor nearer the sensitive areas. If that still doesnt work you could go for waxing, if you have a high pain threshold like me then waxing is great, its quick, and the hairs dont grow back till after about 3 or so weeks. But it can be very very painful! My dear, its your body, you should only do what YOU want, I mean men like women with their nether region shaved but dont realise the pain it takes to get it like that. xXx
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reader, shania +, writes (23 May 2006):
 When i read this....it made my eyes water......Tell your boyfriend to shave all his pubic hair off until he is bald as a coote....see how he likes it! Ouch!!!
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (23 May 2006):
 I am hearing 'you met his needs' rather than 'you met your own needs'. This shaving thing just has to be open to debate and negotiation? Ingrowing hairs may be giving you that itchy feeling but if the skin is really red then it could mean you have dermatitis which is very common down there. It is treatable with prescribed creams! I hear that waxing is very popular for dealing with the hedge, but personally I am not that brave! Try shaving with lots of water based cream, and make sure you put a little cream on it afterwards to rehydrate the outer layers of skin as scraping delicate skin with a blade removes the natural oils. Also wearing cotton underwear is said to help with the itch, so get those bridget jones knickers out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): Harshbutfair suggested waxing...
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reader, tell me all about it! +, writes (23 May 2006):
 why dont you shave him men dont like pain so maybe if he get bit of stinging he might understand what you are on about and maybe between you can come up with someting that might help the stinging between you two.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2006): Have you ever tried sugaring? Its not that expensive (the lady who does mine charges £5 every 3 weeks)s..its not as messy as waxing and it hurts a bit but its not that bad, you get used to it. Gives a much smoother finish than shaving and the more you have it done, the slower the hair grows back (and less hair grows back).
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reader, Toria +, writes (23 May 2006):
 I know alot of females find this same problem when they first start i also know that the more you do it the more the skin gets use to it therefore not hurting as much til its just like shaving your legs or something, if you still want to please him and you still find you are getting problems why dont you pop and see a beauty consultant that might be able to suggest some soothing products for after shaving.
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reader, sexseahot  +, writes (23 May 2006):
 Why don't you try and just trim it very very short with an electric shaver? It may not be as smooth, but it definately looks nice and it also don't hurt at all. See if that's good enough for him. There shouldn't be any reason that you are hurting yourself to please him. There should be a compromise...
Good Luck!
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