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writes: I am probably being really selfish but tomorrow I have got to see my cardiologist (had heart surgery when I was 5)and my boyfriend goes to judo like every Wednesday on the dot! I am happy if he enjoys it and it doesnt bother me at all usually but tonight I have been really anxious about tomorrow and I told him this and that i was feeling a bit down about it (its not pleasant going there) and he didn't like say ohh he will skip judo to come see me and I know I shouldnt feel upset but i do I am trying to tell myself stop being selfish ur being a drama queen but i got this turn my stomach and i feel teary about it, i guess i just want to know he cares although after coming back fro judo (he lives with his parents so i dont see him every night) he said he would have skipped it if i told him i was dwn but i did tell him! honestly i do not have a problem with him going at all every other week just tonight i feel i wanted him here just to make me feel better, gosh i wish i could say this to him but when i try the words just dont come out or they come out wrong, im not very good with expressing my feelings to him i just bottle it up and i get upset ~( i know thats my problem but its hard for me to say how i feel coz i dont wanna sound stupid or over dramatic orr scare him too much where he would say he didnt want to be with me)I didnt want to ask him because well he enjoys it and to be honest i dont want to take him away from it and make him do something he didnt want to doPleasse tell me im being a selfish person? i probably am :( Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 February 2012):
 IF you don't ask him to go how will he know you want him to go???
skipping one week will not kill him but it may mess up his routine and if not asked to go he may make the choice not to skip it.
he's not a mind reader... if you don't tell him you want him to do something he won't know...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2012): I don't think you're being selfish at all. I would just ask him out right and let him know exactly how you are feeling about going. And also how you're feeling right now about asking him! Hope it goes well xx
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 February 2012):
 Your health and safety a weekly fun class. You're not being selfish at all. He probably doesn't realize how scary it is for you if you haven't told him. He might not realize that it's worse than another doctor's appointment. You can't really expect him to know that he should come with you if you don't ask/tell him how scared you are. If you're struggling, try writing it down.
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