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writes:I need to know, once and for all, what to do about the man that I love and who I have only ever loved. I met him 5 years ago and fell for him instantly. We got together but he left me for someone else after 6 months. I stil loved him and to this day I dont know why but I do. We did get back together last year for 3 months but split cos we werent gettin on. But I would do anything to get back with him. Of all the girls he has been involved with I have been the one that stood by him. All the other girls have either cheated on him or left him for someone else. I gave him everything yet he has treated me worse than any of his girlfriends. I even stayed with him when he knocked someone down in his car and killed them. He went through hell yet I was there for him. The worst thing is that he knows Ive been there for him and he knows that Ive never done wrong by him yet he would still prefer to be with someone who would hurt him than me. It's as if he cant tell what's good for him and what isnt. I will never get over my ex for as long as i know him. I dream of marrying him and keep telling myself that one day he wll realise what hes lost and beg me to get back with him. But in my heart of hearts I know this probably wont happen. So I keep my distance now as I know the worst thing to do would be to pester him. We dont speak anymore but sometimes Im tempted to text him and tell him how I feel. But I know he wont listen. I love him so much,. Im thinking about moving away if I cant be with him. I cant bear it when he starts dating someone new. It tears me apart. Please dont tell me to get over him as I truly have tried and I cant.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2009): well done. You get a gold medal for love. you should wear it as a badge.If you love as you claim you do - you have to let him go - there is no choice. If letting him go means he is happier elsewhere than he would be with you then let him go. keeping him just so you are happy is not love.
However, you cant be with this person (as you know), So you have to be pleased and proud that you have shared something wonderful for you. You might not love again - but you wont know until you do.
My guess is it takes 2 years to get over someone enough to move on - but really thats enough to get by. In somecases its a lifetime. (there are no actual rules, despite me looking in google)
Not getting over someone is good trait in a song writer -but not in us mortals - what have you tried to get over him?
Hugs star.x.
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