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anonymous
writes:I know this may be long, but I need to tell you the whole story, because if I just say my problem you'll think I'm like all those other young teen "whores". my sister was dating this guy who is 24 and she is 23. she always uses me to bring up things she wants to tell him but doesn't want to. The last time they had a fight she stopped talking to him for a few days and made me go to his place to tell him that they were "over". I did and said what she told me. He was mad that she sent me to do the "dirty work", but then made the comment that I was the only one who truly understood him. I had been standing near a wall in his room and looking at the pictures he had hanging there while he was bitching about her. All of a sudden out of no where he pulls me to him and whispers in my ear "You're the only one who truly understands me" I tried to pull away, but then he started crying and sayng how he needed me so bad right then. He pinned me against the wall and made me touch his penis, and I started crying too because he was scaring me. I don't know how it happened but somehow he got me to his bed and had my trouses and panties off and he pushed his penis inside me and it really hurt! He kept kissing me and putting his tongue in my mouth and the whole time I just wanted it to be over. It's been a month and a half since then and I found out I was pregnant. He's constantly called and texted me since then telling me he was sorry and that maybe we should be together. Should I tell him I'm pregnant? Is it true a child can't thrive without it's father? Should we be together? I really don't want anything to do with him and I would rather forget about everything that happened, but i want my baby to have a good childhood. And as wierd as it sounds I feel like I have a connection to him because he was the one I lost my virginity to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): you need to tell someone immediately. he raped you even though he won't admit it. he pressurized you into sex.
you need to also get talking to an adult fast, there are hard decisions you need to make. if you are definately pregnant what are you going to do about the baby. people that have been raped don't want anything to do with the resultant effect of a rape. you can only make wise decisions with the help of an adult who is going to be there for you. remember the decisions you now make (although you are emotional right now) will affect you for the rest of your life.
as for your sister she too needs to know, lord forbid that she has reconciled with her b/f.
you do not have a connection with him, he raped you, you didn't consent to having sex with him and anyway you are below the legal age. please do not let him bluff you into any romantic realisation of you two together. he is/was your sisters b/f, he is out of bounds even though you feel a sort of connection. you cannot because he is a RAPIST.
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (2 April 2009):
 Well, first off, no one here will think you are a whore. You obviously didn't want to have sex with him and didn't agree with it, therefore it was rape.
You really need to tell someone, although your parents really need to know about this, if you don't feel you can tell them, find an adult that you trust.
No you shouldn't be with him, it's understandable that he was upset about the break up with your sister, but that is no excuse for what he did.
You seem to be sure about wanting to keep the baby and I think it'll be better off without the father. I'm sure it'll be fine without him - I grew up without my dad and i turned out just fine.
I wish you all the best xx
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (2 April 2009):
 omg!hun you need to tell your parents what has happend this isn't at all your fault and no you shouldn't be with him!he's 24 and your still young! he shouldn't have done something so crude to you!that is wrong!it's rape!!you need to tell people!your mum and dad should surely understand that situation you were in!you need to sort it fast though!don't bother with him he's a loser!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2009): How old is he? It may have been illegal for him to have had sex with you if he is over the age of consent - and that is statutory rape regardless of what you did or didn't say.
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