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*nfinishedSymphony
writes:Ok.Me and this guy had been texting, bumping into eachother on the odd occasion and having very few one-to-one sit down chat sessions. But one thing is sure, there was some major sexual chemistry between us both. Weeks went by and he visited me early hours of saturday morning (spur of the moment thing). God its something that should of happened from day one really. I can't get enough of him. We had sex, amazing sex. On the way to mine on saturday, he told me he loved me as he put the phone down. I was very shocked by this, as me and him from what i knew, we're just single people looking for some fun. So after we had sex, i automatically realised i had great feelings for him. Hes an odd guy, dry humoured, bizarre and hard looking. I don't know exactly what i'm unsure about...i'm not used to wanting someone just for sex and then wanting a relationship to begin. your thoughts?
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reader, UnfinishedSymphony +, writes (3 February 2009):
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Ahhh, it sounds like lust mistaken for love...you are in the very first stages of a relationship where you two are infatuated with all the excitement of new sexual bliss....this won't last by the way......you have to settle into the next stage which is attachment. It is sweeter and more stable.....who knows if it will work out....
The thing is we women need to learn that after amazing sex we are biologically bonded with the man....he could be a serial killer (well maybe that is an exageration) and we will think we are in love and he is in love with us.
The problem is that couldn't be farther from the truth....a guy does not fall in love after amazing sex, the only thing he is thinking about is when he will see you naked again and what different position he can try.
Just calm down and take things a bit slower if you really want a relationship, then you may want to put sex on the back burner if you feel it was too soon to be having sex....you are allowed to do that, you don't have to do it again even though it was amazing and you will want to do it. The problem is guys can easily freak out at this stage and run, especially if you start playing the part of a girlfriend too soon.
You are in a dangerous zone in that your intense feelings are masking the reality of the situation. You don't really know this guy yet. Find out more about him, actually have some conversation about deeper topics, it is kind of fun, so be brave and go for it......time will tell.
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