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writes:I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 and a half yrs two years ago he kissed my cousin which i forgave him for now 2 wks ago i went away for one night and ive just found out he went up to her house looking for sex. I have been told by both of them that nothing happened can i believe this? Should i forgive him or dump him i really love him we have a deposit on a house and are supposed to be moving in soon. Help?
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reader, biddy +, writes (4 September 2007):
biddy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriend told me what he went there for then realised he loved me and couldnt go through with it so he left. We are buying a house and have the deposit on it. He says he is really sorry and dosent want to loose me he keeps crying and saying he made a big mistake. What do you think. I still really love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2007): How did you find out he went to her place looking for sex? If your boyfriend and your cousin were the only people there, then how would the person who told you really know what happened? It depends who this person is and whether you trust what they tell you. I would question why your boyfriend went to your cousin's house on the night you were away. Unless you are all very close and spend alot of time together anyway, this would strike me as very suspicious. Are you sure you trust him? You are just about to make a big commitment to him, and once you are living with him it will be much more difficult for you to split up with him. Perhaps it isn't a good idea to move in with him just yet. You have put the deposit down for a flat, but you will be able to get this back if you give enough notice (I'm assuming you are renting and not buying?). Or, if you could afford it, you might choose to pay him his half of the deposit and move in yourself. Your email suggests you do not trust him, and we have to trust our instincts (as oprah says, if we all trusted our instincts, many couples would not be together). Don't let love blind you to his faults. XX
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