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I went all out for her, but she's gravitating back to her ex

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Question - (22 June 2010) 0 Answers - (Newest, )
A male United States age 41-50, *ycdarkwolf writes:

I have gone all out for her and showed her what her past relationship never showed her and now I feel hurt.I don’t know what to do anymore I need help. I have met my junior high school sweet heart almost a year ago. I found her on face book; we were apart for a number of years. I’m single and she was not, we are both the same age 28. We clicked on our first call, for 5 months she was telling me how bad her boyfriend treats her. When they broke up, she asked my help to help her move back to our home town. She lived in California with her boyfriend until they broke up. I flew down there and drove her and her stuff back to Florida. We started dating after couple of weeks her move. Her family met me, all of her friends met me, and most of them like me. Within 3 months my focus was to get into a relationship with her, but for the past a month or so she started to act weird, likes she’s closed up. Then I found out she still in contact with her ex. I told her that’s fine as long there is no emotion is involved. But last weekend we were hanging out with her friends when she received a call from a her ex. I knew it wasn’t good I asked one of her friends what’s going on he told me “it seems that her interest in him is back” and a couple days before that she told me that on her vacation she is going back to California to visit her friends but the problem he is there. I did what ever this girl needed and yet she remembers him. After all I have done. I have spoken to her and told how I felt. She told me it’s not about me it’s about her. She told me she still loves him. She wanted him to change but he doesn’t want to change, she told me she was scared to get into a relationship again. There are things to consider about her, her ex is her first love and they broke up before because he cheated and broke up now because he doesn’t want to change and doesn’t have time for her. I don’t know what to do; I worked so hard to start something with her. I feel so messed up inside and hurt. I feel he will win her heart again. I don’t want to lose her, but I can’t lie to her or to myself and tell her we are still friends if she goes back. I do love her deeply, but I can’t be just friends it hurts. Please help me out.

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