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writes: Dear Cupid,I met a guy that I really liked, and we had sex a few times. Our "relationship" was cut short because he was only visiting my hometown for a few weeks, and he didn't really stay in touch when he left. Now his brother has moved here and we met through a mutual friend. He has been flirting with me a lot, and I think he might make a move soon. I do like him, but I think it would be wrong to lead him on since I was with his brother. What should I tell him about me and his brother? Should I let the chance to be with a great guy slip by??
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2005): Tell him before the other brother find out...
If his anything like the ppl i know whos been in this situation, the two brothers may get violent with each other, see how BOTH brothers feel.
Your in a realy difficult situation, ultimatly though its your choice, but you need to be honest with the current brother, and then maybe even ask the other brother... i know you dont need permission from him or anythin, but guys can be teritorial, specialy when it comes to dating the others brother.. (even more so if you an the other brother were in a serious relatiopnship, and recent!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2005): Either way this is a risk for you. If you are just at the flirting phase of the game here, you are far better off to be honest with him and tell him, asap. Some guys have no problems with this..some do. You don't know that and brothers do talk and it will come out, sooner than you think.
Remember, his brother has more claims on him than you do. His brother is a trusted relative, you are the woman he's simply likes, for now. Be upfront and honest because if anything, it shows him that you are an honorable person with some ideals about always being truthful. Tell him and then leave him to mull it over for a few days. Let him call you. But unfortunately, you are the 'expendable' person in this triangle..so hope for the best after you tell him, but expect nothing. If it doesn't work..then says "adios" and don't waste anymore emotional energy in this guy...get out and find someone else. Hang in there and be strong.
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reader, pall4all +, writes (2 November 2005):
dont say him any thing if you want relationship as same as you had with his brother, but if you think you love him really then, make your relationship strong (could be sex)then say him all but just let him guess what you are trying to say, dont give him your past Book to read out and then he may keep that in shelf as a history ,,,, hope you get the points ,by this you wont let your love and lover either............. all the best
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reader, katekooeee +, writes (2 November 2005):
You need to be honest sweetie, he will respect you more for this- you obviosly have feelings for each other and are considering your actions carefully. If you start a relationship with this guy without letting him know you were with his brother you may spoil your chance with him. Consider that he may already know! Good luck!
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