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writes: Well, I am in a long term relationship with my boyfriend of 8 months and we both are madly in love with each other. But there are many problems...not between us but around us. We both live about 150 miles away from each other and within our 8 month relationship we have only seen each other 4 times. I am 15 and he is 18...no big deal as my parents are 5 years difference, but they are what seems to be the problem. You see I don't get on well with either of them and it is hard to talk to them about love, but recently I typed out a letter to my mum saying how desperate I am to live with my boyfriend as I feel unhappy here in my home and school. My mum and dad give me a lot of stuff and I am grateful for it all but the only thing I really want is to be with my boyfriend. I've been having rows with them recently about it all and it has made me ill as I need to be with my boyfriend. I have considered going away from home but I am obsessed with my education as I don't want to disrupt it and my father would be angry and stop me from seeing my boyfriend anymore. They cannot accept that I am happy with him. I have said that they have got each other, now it's my turn. Even though I am 15, I am more mature than others. At the moment I have had enough to be honest, but other times I feel safe at home cos I am in my surroundings. Someone please tell me what to do.By the way, may I mention...there is no way of getting through to my parents seeing as I don't get on well with them and they are strict in my eyes. All I want is to be with my boyfriend...no other wishes. Please help...what can I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008): Well i think you guys shouldnt sneek and do anything but if you can just sit down with your parents and say mom dad i love this boy and i want to come to you and say we are madly in love and please accept the fact i told you but when its time for me to move out or whatever i am going to be with him i want to see him so let me please go out wit him and give me a time to be in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2005): I met my boyfriend when i was 15 i didn't get on with my parents either,my boyfriend was 18 and my parents tried to stop me seeing him as they thought he was to old for me and he would affect my school work.I had so many rows with my parents i felt they did,nt understand how much i loved him,so at 15 i left home and moved in with my boyfriend. We got a flat but neither of us were working so i left school and got a job that paid peanuts but i had to take it to pay the rent,i could,tn even get benefit as i was too young.At first everyting was great no parents to answer too i was living my dream.It was,nt long before having no money, no socail life put a strain on our relationship,we had a rocky 2 years then at 17 i fell pregnant i was over the moon i thought this would make us a proper family,i didn't realise how hard it was to be a young parent.Shortly after my son was born we got married i was 19, my husband had to take a factory job to support us which he hated because he always wanted his own buissnes.By the time our son was 2 our marrige had totally broken down but we hung on for another 2 years then we seperated.We still loved each other we just had so many regrets about our lives, we wanted different things.The last 2 years of our marrige were hell we said and did terrible things to hurt each other until it got to the point where we didn't even have the strength to argue anymore.Im 28 now and i still have regets, i love my son but i wish i'd had him later in my life, i should have got a career first and so should my husband then we would'nt have struggled like we did. I still see my husband although we have different lives now, he is my best friend and we both think if we met later in life maybe we would still be together now.We had to grow up so quick thats why we lost the passion we had and became like brother and sister not the young lovers we were. So slow it down if you and this guy are meant to be together no amount of time or distance will seperate you it will make you stronger. Keep some time for your friends and your studies and try to remember that your parents only want whats best for you, show them you can have a boyfriend without it taking over your whole life. If you stay together they will grow to love him too. lyndsey
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reader, Ftuley +, writes (3 November 2005):
 I think you are doing good for a 15 year old, don `t give up your education for no one.
When i was your age i had so many boyfriends, they all were the one, i said it every time, this is the one i want, little i knew that was so much to come.
My parents didn't seem to understand and they didn't seem to care how i felt, only because they knew i was not old enough to change my mind or trust them and do what they wanted me to do, now i wish i did!!!!!.
Years of experience have been a gift to my life, but some things i can `t change because is too late for me but not too late for you.
I tell you, you will love and have your heart broken so many times that in a few years you will look back and think....God what was i thinking?
Moving away or moving with your boyfriend wont make you feel any better, maybe for a week or so then you will realise how hard it is to be 15 and live a life of a 20 year old, because that is what will happen, you will have to grow up too fast for your age, you need your parents at your age and actually at any age.
If you really like this boy, then try to find a way of visiting at weekends, but no more than that until you a bit older.
The fact that you are mature has nothing to do with it!
You still need to finish your education, you need your parents, your friends, your home.
Believe me if this boy is the one for you, it will work no matter what you do, or where you live or how far you are from him.
But think well about your life, don't throw is away for a love that you might not even remember by the time you are 25.
You got so much to live, so much to do Darling, enjoy it as it comes strive to be happy with what ever you have where you are now, where you are safe!
Think! as you are so mature for your age i know you will see it like i do in the end!
I hope i helped! If i din `t at least i `m trying my best.
Take care and good luck!
Ftuley
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