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writes: Hi. I've had a crush on a girl who used to go to my old school since she returned from Italy (she went for 2 years). I decided to ask her out over MSN; I couldn't take it anymore. She said no, even though I ewas so sure she liked me. Her friends said so, she pretended to go out wth me for a couple of days and she had "xxx" at the end of our texts etc. The point is I was so sure.But she said no, because it would be awkward because her brother is one of my best friends. Does she really not like me, or is she suppressing her feelings because of how awkward it would be. The worst thing is that she said she asked one of my friends out (was she trying to make me jealous). What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): Oh my...I feel for you. One does not know what she was thinking but we do know that- No means no. You liked her and you made the common error of assuming she liked you back. Romance and dating can be harsh and this is one of the downsides of dating and liking other people. She's dating other people and you should be too. Dating is a form of shopping around and this is likely the way she's viewing it. I would let go and move on. But I have to say...I give you credit where credit is due, dear. You put yourself on the line, you took the chance of getting what you wanted, as opposed to hurting with no chance of getting what you wanted. That takes confidence, guts and courage. Remember this...not to venture in life and love, is to lose yourself. So, please do not let this one incident cause fear and paralyze you from taking further risks in dating. Get through this setback, and carry on. It's highly likely, you will be turned down again, in the future. This is life, we've all been there and we learn from the lessons. What will make you strong and able to move forward, is your ability to stay mentally and emotionally confident and strong... and realizing one girl's rejection of you, will open up other paths and opportunities for you to finding that special someone. Take Care and be strong.
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (13 April 2006):
 Sadly for you I have to agree here with the other answer here. The kisses mean almost nothing and could simply be an expression of friendly affection. Being friends with her brother may make you a little 'close to home' maybe to much so for comfort but it should not make a significant difference.
It is something that would be overcome if the feeling was strong enough, if there was an attraction there it wasnt powerful enough to overcome this awkwardness and that would not bode well for any future success. If you so desire then keep trying but do not bank on future success. Sorry.
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reader, shania +, writes (13 April 2006):
 If she has asked another guy out then the reason she turned you down was because she liked the other bloke 1st.If she really liked you,i cant see how you being friends with her brother would make any difference.The kisses at the end of a txt doesn't really prove anything.If i was you i would look else where,rather then wait for her....maybe she might change her mind and go out with you but i wouldn't wait forever on that assumption.
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