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51-59,
*nabletocope
writes:I will try to keep this short,I was raped for most of my childhood from 6yrs untill I left home.with the man I married I was married at 16 hes 10 yrs my senior and have been with him sence, now im 41 my question is during sex its always been very rough to the point of me screaming and crying,somehow i think hes always thought thats how its done maybe, but it just is so painful and inside hurts so much the next day. I would like a way to tell him that im not enjoying it without him thinking he less of a man or just getting angry at me.I do love him but he is not easy to talk to, he gets very angry easily. and I think hes a alcoholic but can be sure, and I understand he has alot of pressure on him but I sure would like to know of a way I could try and explain to him how I feel. please help
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reader, unabletocope +, writes (24 March 2010):
unabletocope is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondomo kun thank you, your answers make me think maybe its not just me, but you asked do i want to be happy? well I think being happy for me atleast is something just so out of reach i stopped thinking about it. i kinda mostly feel like well its hard to explain like sence I do have a place to stay and food and its not so bad that maybe I shouldnt be thinking about more, maybe there is something wrong with me somehow for even writing in the first place,like anonymous wrote maybe im the one thats like broke and he (my husband)is just being normal in bed, could it be?? everything is always confuseing,I feel one way and someone says it differently and i start seeing it from there view and what i was thinking seems stupid, does that make any sence?? maybe im a idiot who knows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): Dear Middle aged lady,
I feel this problem is very simple to solve and i know many girls would love this kind of rough sex.
But i feel you should just say the same problem some time with love over a dinner table when he is in good mood.
I am sure he is good man and will try to refine his sexual style in bed.
HOw ever, Males sex is slightly aggressive often in the bed in general so he is no different from many other mens.
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reader, unabletocope +, writes (23 March 2010):
unabletocope is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you both and yes he knows about my past. I was just wanting a way to try to explain how I feel to him, but it dont seem like its the best thing to do I guess.
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