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writes:Hi everyone,I got myself in a real predicament this weekend and would like to know if people think there's anyway I could salvage what I have with a girl at the moment.Basically what happened, Saturday night I was in a really bad way (drink/drugs) went out with a couple of friends and saw out the girl that I'm seeing. I don't remember a lot of the night but what I do remember/been told is that one of this girls friend's who I really don't like was chatting to her alone for large periods of the night and me being the idiot that I am decided to message her telling her to 'f*ck off and never speak to me again' and that she was 'taking the p*ss out of me'.Later in the night one of my mates ended up getting into a bit of a scrap with one of her friends. She came to speak to me obviously fuming with what I had said and then we ended up going to her house to talk (sounds good but it's really not).The next day I got up and I left, I messaged her asking her to come to my house after work, she declined and she said it's weird because she usually wants to sort things out with me but this time she didn't feel bothered.We chatted for the rest of the night, still refused to see me and she said she was going to bed but we could talk tomorrow. I thought to myself a little and said I know she's angry with me and that I would let her think things over but when she's ready to talk I'm here. I've messed up a few times in the past but nothing like this before and I'm really worried I've ruined everything. What does an outsider think ?I'm more than happy to add any more info anyone needs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2015): you were in no fit state to be out for the night...a raging drunken idiot who sent an abusive message on the phone to someone he cares about.To unravel this you have to try to see things from both points of view.The night out was for you both to enjoy and possibly you were embarrassing your girlfriend by your drunken behaviour.Maybe when she was chatting to a friend she was having a heart to heart about how little in common you two have and how she doesnt see a great deal of future if you can barely stand up when you go out...so..i suggest you follow this new rule.ALWAYS eat before you go out and drink any alcohol as those nights can be long, then restrict the amount of alcohol you drink.Some people just knock drink back like lemonade and all they get is embarressment and a hangover. Others go to hospital. You will have to change your behaviour with regards to drink and drugs because this toxic mix will only debiltate you and sadly you will end up with no girlfriend and no libido.So take up a sport and get fit.Your girlfriend has probably had enough of you and for her own self esteem is probably now your ex girlfriend so if that doesnt encourage you to get off the slippery slope to hell and sober up a bit,then you will probably wait till you cause some damage to yourself or someone else,so take it as a warning and clean up your act from now on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2015): You're not properly together yet and already you've 'messed up' several times. Also you verbally abused someone while you were drunk / drugged off your face so much that you don't really remember what happened.
She'd do well to stay well away from you.
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