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writes:Hi am 18 yrs old and just over a year ago I was raped by my sisters husband. One night I was at a party and got drunk (yes I know I am under age and stuff but it happens). Most of my friends were drinking so I called him ( my sisters husband) to pick me up. They are both 28 and really cool and always made it clear if I need a drive to call one of them. I dont remember much just him helping into the car and then I remember laying on the bed in my sisters house and he was touching me (fingering me and stuff). When I woke up the next morning I had no panties on and I could kinda remember him kissing my neck and touching me but I thought I must have been dreaming because I never imangined he would do that. About a month later I was at another party drinking but not drunk and I was staying at my sisters because my parents were out of town. I had a friend drop me off, my sister was working so I went to bed. I woke up later to him on top of me, kissing me with his hands in my pants. I tried pushing him away and thats when he got mad. He called me a slut and that I didnt seem to mind "last time", he then raped me. It was really hot outside and the window was open a neighbour heard me screaming and called the police. He was arrest. My sister has told me many times that she was sorry and that it wasnt my fault but I notice her looking at me like I am an evil person. It has caused a huge distance between us. What can we do to get over all of this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): hi am 16 yrs old and i understand what your going through because about 7 months ago i was raped by my sisters husband when i was 15 yrs old. your saying that this caused a huge distance with you and your sister, in my case my sister did not think twice about me and sed i have to go back to my husband i cant leave him. this made me upset more than angry because my own sister betrayed me for her bastar* husband. wel its taking me time to get over it... hope u feel better
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2009): hi. i dnt know you but ive been through the same thing. 5 months ago i was raped by my sisters husband. i know what you have been through. i was 15 at that time. your saying it created distance between you and your sister, in my case my sister did not think twice about me but sed i cant leave my husband. when she made this decision me and my sister stopped talking totally. we havent spoken to each other for 5 months now. i hate looking at her face and she cant even face me anymore...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): I'm sorry this happened to you. Please tell us that your sister does not plan on staying w/this SOB! I'm a guy and I love my woman, I just don't understand some men, well actually in his case, pigs!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): It's terrible that somebody you obviously trusted and admired has treated you this way. What a creep! Thank god somebody heard you and called the police and now this jerk will get what he deserves.
As for your sister it may take her some time to get over all of this. Her happy married life is now ruined and the man she loves/loved has turned out to be a rapist. You can imagine how much her world is falling apart right now. The most important thing to remember is: it's not your fault. Even your sister knows this i think, deep down. She may be looking at you in a strange way because she may think on some level, if you hadn't put yourself in that kind of situation none of this would have happened. This of course, is ludacris, if he had it in him to rape someone it would have happened eventually, to you or some other poor soul. She will also probably realize this herself but people act in strange ways when they're in shock or things have taken a turn for the worst.
Talk to your sister. Tell her how you feel. Honestly keeping everything bottled up never helps anything.
Good luck to you, i hope in time you and your family can get over this horrible horrible ordeal. God bless x
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reader, kaylagal  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 She might resent you for destroying her life. She might think your under-age drinking and partying caused her hubby to rape you. Kinda like you brought it to yourself and now her husband is in jail.
Well, communication is everything. Talk to your sister about your feelings. You are the big victim here, but she is too, so you also have to sympathise with her.
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