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writes:I got mugged and punched really hard in the stomach. The doctor said I may have internal bleeding, and to monitor how I feel. The pain has got worse so I called the doctor again who said it didn't sound good and if I started to feel dizzy etc to call back and they would send an abmulance to get me as internal bleeding is very serious and potentially fatal. She recommended I have someone here to keep an eye on me in case I loose conciousness, but I live alone and don't have anyone I can call on. My boyfriend lives in the same city as me and I told him what was going on, yet he is still going away for the weekend for his friends birthday. He kind of said he would stay but when I said no he should go (not really wanting him too because I am scared) he didn't put up a fight. I am now feeling quite hurt that he has left me all on my own with this to deal with.. should I feel like this or was it ok for him to go? Reply to this Question
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (2 August 2008):
 It sounds like you may have downplayed the whole thing, I'm not even sure if you mentioned the 'I could go unconscious and die' part to him..it sounds like you may have just said I got hurt and I might want someone to stay with me, but that's cool, go ahead. You deserve to give yourself the care that that mugger did not give you. You don't deserve the abuse you received, and you don't deserve to abuse yourself by not taking care of yourself and not admitting you need your partner. Call him back immediately and tell him it's a life and death situation and that you're scared and you need someone during this time. Even if you are okay, it's better that you have your person there, at the very least, to ensure your health, and to give you the comfort you need during this crazy time for you. If it's too late for your bf, find a friend, family member, even a neighbor, you could pay them back for 'babysitting' you and keeping you safe from harm if this is awkward for you. Please take your doctor's advice seriously and follow through and take care of yourself by getting someone else there to protect you.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (2 August 2008):
It sounds like you may have downplayed the whole thing, I'm not even sure if you mentioned the 'I could go unconscious and die' part to him..it sounds like you may have just said I got hurt and I might want someone to stay with me, but that's cool, go ahead. You deserve to give yourself the care that that mugger did not give you. You don't deserve the abuse you received, and you don't deserve to abuse yourself by not taking care of yourself and not admitting you need your partner. Call him back immediately and tell him it's a life and death situation and that you're scared and you need someone during this time. Even if you are okay, it's better that you have your person there, at the very least, to ensure your health, and to give you the comfort you need during this crazy time for you. If it's too late for your bf, find a friend, family member, even a neighbor, you could pay them back for 'babysitting' you and keeping you safe from harm if this is awkward for you. Please take your doctor's advice seriously and follow through and take care of yourself by getting someone else there to protect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): No I'm sorry I have to disagree...I know men say they aren't mind readers and all that but in all fairness you've been through a pretty tough ordeal and he really should out of love and devotion stay with you during this time...instead of leaving you on your own..his friends would totally understand..I'm sorry but when a girl in times like these says ah no it's ok you go..he should know/or should out of pure kindness and love stay with you xxx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 August 2008):
Well you told him he could go! Men aren't mind readers! They are always accusing women of saying yes when they mean no and the other way around, and in this case it is true.
He might just be really dim and not realise how serious the situation is. You should have told him that you are really sorry but you need him to stay or find a friend to babysit you.
As it is you need to keep your mobile on you at all times and don't do any heavy lifting or stretching.
As for the boyfriend, you really can't be angry at him when you told him he could go, but next time he has a cold and thinks he's dying then feel free to tell him you are off out to do some shopping and leave him to it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2008): If I was your boyfriend I'd stay with you. Even if you said go. At the same time, some guys do different things, and he probably just wanted to go out to see his friends.
Slightly insensitively...
In the mean time, I suggest that you stay round a friends house or something incase something does happen. It is serious and should be monitored - as the doctor said.
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