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*lossom1974
writes:I have been on an emotional rollacoaster - I met an Iranian guy who owns a shop in dubai in June '06 and we texted and called each other for 4 months until I decided to move out to Dubai. I moved to Dubai without a job (I have finally got one now 2 months later). At first he was calling me to see if he could drop by the hotel to see me or we would go out for a drink together. But I was only seeing him about once a week as his shop doesn't close until 11pm everynight. It his own shop and he has only startd the business this year. Last week we talked and he explained that it isn't the right time for a relationship for him - so basically dumped me. I just can't understand why he has encouraged me to come over without thinking about what it means to be in a relationship. We have left things amicably and I start my job next week so I am going to throw myself into that. But I really would like to try to work things out with him. I am English (Christian) he is Muslim and doesn't drink that much but spends a lot of time with his brothers and cousins out here. I wonder if it was a religion thing as I invited him out a couple of times with the people I have met out here but he is always tired or just closing the shop. I completely trust him and know whenever I rang he would pick up the phone so I don;t think it was anything other than he has a new business and can't let a girl get in the way of that. I feel completely let down as I have given up a lot to move out here - is there something I am jst not seeing? Do you think once I get settled into my job and life here he may come back to me? I have not called or texted him now for 1 week and not heard anything from him. He said that he wants to be with me and we should try to go away but then back tracked and said that he has to make a decision and that decision is that it is just not going to work! Please help me put some perspective on this. I have very strong feelings for him.
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reader, julie52 +, writes (2 January 2010):
i can only say what i feel , i have just been let down by my arab man went home for dads funeral nearly 2 months and never returned , i am afraid in the muslim world when they go home the light switch just turns off and they forget any thing they had in a differen land you will never break down the barriers of muslim familys honestly you probably invaded his space at home come back to your land and honestly dont look back you had a lucky escape . as hard as it is and i know that feeling right now you will benefit in the long run take care and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): Hi Blossom,
I am An Arab Muslim female, I too do not think that religion is an issue here, as Muslim men can marry Christian woman, and the woman can stay Christian.
I think what is going on, that he is attracted to you, and he might even have feelings for you, but, some Muslim men, feel intimidated by western woman, diffirent lifestyle, and some can not bare the idea of former boyfriends.
I agree with the former writer, ask him frankly, try to get answers and if things do not work out, there is plenty of fish in the sea.
Have fun, it's Dubai.
All the best and take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2007): hi,
am an arab girl (christian) and i really would love to help you.i don't think that religion is the issue here, because if it was he wouldn't have invited you there in the first place( oh by the way if you need any help in dubay please tell me i know a lot of people over there who can help you),anyways i think what he is trying to do is make you fall all over for him, DON'T SEEM EASY , play his game and seem mysterious .. and if you don't see that going anywhere well you are in dubay am sure that there many other men..
and why don't you just face him and ask him why is he acting that way.and why did he ask you to go to dubay if he is gonna treat you that way..
good luck and if you ever need anything don't be shy to contact me bye.
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