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writes: I just broke up with my boyfriend of exactly 1 year because i find that it has been a long time that i felt any attraction between us and i don't get happy or excited when i see him. He is very very good to me, the best boyfriend i have ever had but i find myself recently getting attracted to someone who will never like me back. I don't know why i'm putting myself through this but i just can't stop thinking about this guy but one on the other hand, i have a guy who wants to be there for me always and loves me but i just don't feel anything anymore for me and i know i am hurting him which is why i broke it off but he doesn't seem to wanna let go. What do i do?
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reader, Withnail700  +, writes (3 July 2006):
 I have been in this position recently and I know how hard it is. I have been going out with a wonderful, kind and intelligent girl for two years now. She is lovely, and wants to be with me forever, look after me and share her life with me. But although she is so amazing, I keep finding myself being attracted to other women and flirt with them at times. I feel so bad, but I can't stop myself. I even broke thngs off with her for a while and dated another girl. I think these things happen for a reason. The fact that you're thinking of this other guy and are attracted to him means that you're still searching for 'The One'. You should put your fears aside and finish it properly with your curent partner. It is never nice, but unfortunately part of life. You have to move on and find the guy who really does it for you. I went back to my girlfriend four times, always because I started to question my reasons for leaving her in the first place. But every time we got back together, I just found the same old problems and doubts again. Just try and trust your gut feeling. Move on and find the guy of your dreams!
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reader, Terrapin +, writes (2 July 2006):
 ok, the ex who you feel safe and comfy with, just doesnt do it for you. it is over, no passion means the end of a sexual relationship. talk to him about being friends, explain how you feel and ask if he wants to be friends and if he can cope with that... if you want of course. Then as for this guy who will supposedly never like you back, how do you know this for sure? Unless he is definately gay, there is a chance. Im not sure whether you should go for it or not though. maybe you should wait until the next time you fancy a guy, give yourself time to get over a sad breakup and your ex time to recover before moving on. Dont feel the need to go from boy to boy just because you fancy them for five minutes.
Enjoy life with your mates and give a 'cooling' period for your ex's sake, if not yours.
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