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writes: My boyfriend is absolutely, totally and utterly gutted now that England are out of the World Cup. He can barely speak and I can't seem to make him see that it's summer, life is good, and that there's still fun to be had. Anyone got ideas how to lift him up from this loss? Please don't ask me to tell him "it's just a game" because to him it's not!
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (7 July 2006):
 jus tell him its just football its not like someones died or anythin and he should stop being a little girl about it
ok maybe that would be a bit insensitive but he'l get over it its not end of world lol
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (4 July 2006):
 I think alot of people are gutted not just that they are out but at the manner in which they went out. I agree telling him its just a game wont help. Rather than seem like ur imposing this on him why not plan something you know he will enjoy...and something for the two of you to lift his spirits. I think you will find the trickest things is changing his mood a little then it will change alot.
Also give it time, its going to be high profile news maybe for about a week yet until the world cup has ended. Coax him dont brow-beat him out of it. Hope that helps. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): well i'm portuguese and when we lost to greece two years ago i was devistated!!! but not as much as my boyfriend. it took him ages to get over it and on top of that he got soo much shit from people! the one thing that made him gradually get over it was to watch the game over and over again!! I just chucked the video tap at him and told him to stop sobbing watch the game and realise that you cant change the clock! i showed sympathy at first but when it got pathetically long, i didnt care!!right now im also trying to tell him to prepare for the portugal game and if we loose to get over it because i dont want to hear it again! also not after the lose of brasil!!
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reader, willywombat +, writes (2 July 2006):
 harsh as this may sound tell him to get the hell over it!!
Thank God it is over, only two more years then the Europena Championships and four more before we have to put up with depressed men drinking too much again!!
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reader, --Nicki-- +, writes (2 July 2006):
 Hello
I think most people are gutted about what happened yesterday but I you just need to give him time, he will come around I'm sure!
My Best Wishes
Nicki xx
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (2 July 2006):
 England didn't play the best, Beckham looks ill, Rooney is having temper tantrums and the Portugese side should try their hand at rugby not football...but at least Brazil are out as well - there is a bright side to everything! The Portugal team won't win the world cup so consol him with that fact!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (2 July 2006):
 Well im feeling pretty much like your boyfriend... There are now two of us in this house that are really fed up and miserable.. :o( Football means as much to me as the next man and I personally couldnt speak after the game. I know how he feels this was our best chance with the team that we got and we've been stuffed again... So how to get out of the miserbale feeling... well to start it will fade a little over time, whilst the world cup is still on its going to feel worse especially if Germany go and do it! So leave him for a bit to stew until this is all over. Then he will start to come out the other side. The football season starts again soon, in August so that well help to lift his spirits again.. thats what im having to do.. look forward to that and support my team once again! So there is something to look forward to and he will see that soon. but in the meantime hes gonna just feel crap as I know I do. He will come round its just we all had our hopes up that this was the year.. didnt help with portugal not being very sporting on the pitch.. talk to him about what he thinks should of happend during the game and how he sees things, it might help him to get it off his chest. Me and the bf sat last night mulling it over and feel a bit better after talking about it. (but in our hearts know this was our best chance ever) We know our boys did all they could and the ref was clearly not on our side.. Fancy having an Argentian ref!!! We are still cross but we know we have to accept it. We are deflated and will take a few days but your bf will get over it, its raw at the moment, give him a couple of weeks and it will pass I can assure you. Right now its only just happend and its like being shot straight in the stomach, i for one am very upset about it, but there is nothing I can do, its over now... Your bf will be feeling like that too and will come round, leave him to stew for a bit and once the season kicks off he will have something to focus on. He can only sulk for so long, so just leave him to it, men dont like to be fussed over, so let him wallow and he will come round in his own time.
You do have my sympathies, but the two of us here are feeling pretty rotten so your not alone hun, will all come out in the wash just will take a wee while.
Take care x
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reader, Smiler +, writes (2 July 2006):
 Hey Sweetie
I'm sorry your man is so sad :o( but this is your golden opportunity to shine as the perfect g/f? make the most of it yeah :o) Sit down with him and talk about the game console him tell him your just as gutted as he is, (even though your secretly glad that is over cause you get your man back) say things like now they have to concentrate on making the team better for 4 years time when the world cup kicks off again? say to him that now we have the premiership to focus on where I'm sure his team will fly through that ask him if he wants a massage and say all you will where is his England shirt and then he can score on you you know then say you could maybe go to a match together next world cup take his mind of it you know try and get him looking forward to next world cup rather than focusing on this years loss...
I hope my advice was of help to you in this situation :o) and good luck with it. If you ever need a friendly chat of shoulder to cry on or just more advice I'm always here for you
You Take Care X
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