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writes:Hello! I have a question...but I will start from the beginning so you have more of an understanding of the question.In fifth grade, most of my friends (including my best) had boyfriends and what not. I did have a crush, on one guy though, who had been my best guy friend since third grade. Anyways, I was too scared to ask him out because he might've said no and that could ruin our friendship.So the next year in sixth grade, I was so ready to ask him out, but I still was a bit scared. I waited, and waited and soon, I met my current boyfriend. We sat next to eachother in science class (at the time, I hated it) but we eventually became small friends. I grew a crush and at the end of the term, I had one of my friends ask him out for me (since I was too scared to go up and say, "Will you go out with me?"). He gave me his answer at the end of class when we got back inside (I did this all at recess). It was yes, and there I had it, my very first boyfriend. We finished the rest of the school year happily together, but summer vacation was a little difficult. I'm not good on the phone, which really is something I need to work on. We barely talked all summer vacation, but a week before school, he called me up and asked me if I wanted to go to a football game with him. I said yes almost imediately (not in a stupid way, more casual). We barely watched the game, but I didn't care. After that, school came, and the first dance was the best, having not realised how much I missed dancing with him.To speed things up, we haven't really gotten closer in the past few months, making me worried. But he did give me a beautiful necklace that looked expensive, at least as much as I paid for his gift (which took awhile to save up for). I wear it every day now. Today, January 31, is our 10 month aniversary. I am worried about us, basically because my best friend's boyfriend broke up with her a week ago. I keep thinking I'm next but I was reasurred by my boyfriend that he wasn't planning on breaking up with me anytime soon. But the thought still hangs around in my head.Our relationship hasn't gotten better either. We seem to be staying at the same place, and I want to go further, and I am planning on talking to him about it at the dance this Friday, but to tell the truth, I can't talk that well. I sometimes stumble on the words, and I sometimes don't even get that far. As I said earlier, I am horrible on the phone, unless he calls me.My questions are:-How do I talk to him without going too far, making him think I WANT to go too fast in our relationship?-Is there anything I can do without talking to him, but still going slow?-Any tips for having first boyfriends?
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reader, hipeople +, writes (3 February 2007):
hey, its me the friend in the story above. Anyways my addvise eould be 2 talk 2 him or just make a move, because if hes 2 shy 2 make the move than do it urself.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (1 February 2007):
 My advice would be not to act so insecure. If you have negative feelings, this could lead to the relationship turning sour, and then he may well break up with you. At the moment it seems that everything is going nice and slow and he has reassured you that he isnt going to break up with you. If you love and trust him, I have no doubts that you two will be just fine. Good luck
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