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writes:what kind of relationship am i in?hello reader i've been in a relationship for two yrs.and my boyfriend is crazy! he and i now live together with his mom! which she's not the problem actually we bond good now bette than last year when we first got together. but he use to be a lot nicer than now! he's starting to show his true colors! sometimes he won't pay me any special attention like he used too. such as rubbing my feet or having sex all the time he says that he can't get it up! but when he wants it he expects great sex! and i'm like hell no! because when iam in the mood he ignores me by playing video games!or watching tv.Then hurries off to sleep! i could be naked and it seems like he wont notice! also we don't go anywhere at his expense he's so damn stingy with money that when i need stuff he wont lookout!but if i go to the store i buy things that he wants like a beer or ciggeretts! since we just recently got into acar accident he's became depressed over the car! it was a hit and run and his insurance company refuse to help pay when he's been paying full coverage. lately he's isolated hiself and mopps around like its the end of the world and nothing i do can make him happy!point blank we got problems to be esolved together but it can't with one person willinng to try.(me)he's slacked on hygeine also goes to sleep making me uncomfortable with clothes on. and then gets up no shower or teeth brushed to go to work ! all he talks about is what kind of new car he wants an what he going to get himself! never anything for me.i feel like if i can spend my money on him why can't he do the same on me.it's seriously getting tired with his selfish attitude ,and trying to confront him about it he gives the silent treatment and huff's and pufff's like a child . and i have three children i don't ned another!We also need a new place to stay and were looking for a house but he acts like he's waiting for me to put my money on it! so he can buy his car!i asked him if he's going to help put money away and look at houses for us to live in. again thats issue is ignored ! he and i are 28 yrs old these are problems you find with a 21-25yr.old and he's getting on my nerves! i love him! and want to work it out but he's so stubborn to change! can this work out? and how can we go on being together?
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reader, kiesha +, writes (16 December 2010):
kiesha is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyour right and thats exactly what i am going to do! move out soon ! i can't take his faithless acts and bad judgement decisions that he makes. now today me and his mom went to the chiropractor for the second accident that i was involved in we had urge him to call in at work to go and be seen but once again he failed to do the right thing! i'm injured more serious now in the accident with his mom after being in one with him.yes i have a attorney who's working on the first accident with him. he does also.But besides that he refuses to grow up and let the car go! its totally damaged now,after being hit the first time in acar accident we had. it got hit again while parked in front of the house because theres no driveway to park it in(another reason why we want to move) we werent in it this time we had left to the store! came back and it was wrecked into again and peices we found of the other car were that hit it was all that was left behind!another freaking hit and run!so the company still refuses to come and get the vehicle.so it now parked in the yard. and he's still trying to make payments on a car he can't drive and talks about fixing it up again .twelve thousand dollar damages has been done and he dosent have that kind or make that kind of money at all .whats the point in suing the inssurence company then? he wont go to the doctor to get checked out! if he did he could win alot more money!he's thinking ignorant! so you know what im done with this BS!i'm going to get compensated for both accidents!then im out and hell no he can't get a damn dime from me!he's childish so im gone anyway! thank you
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reader, petina1  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 You need to be in your own place,but how he would support you i dont know because he is thinking about himself only. Is he a good enough role model for your three children? He is in a lazy way because he's never had to fend for himself, still living at home, having it all laid on a plate for him. He has a lot of growing up to do but won't start at all unless you are out of his mom's place. The accident would have knocked his senses for six as well. That's probably where the depression has stemmed from. Did he get any followup support from that when it happened... Lot's to sort out I know, but is he worth fighting for?
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