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writes:i am in love with my wife's sister, i think she feels the same way about me. i am not in love with my wife and considering divorcing her. i love and care about my wife but i am not in love with her, and not sure if i have ever been. i want to tell my wife's sister how i feel about her, and have had plenty of opportunity but i keep chickening out. i want to tell her. i have to tell her or i'll go crazy not knowing. please someone help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, s.skiles  +, writes (10 November 2008):
First you are going to have to talk it over(if you havent already) if you are planning to save your relationship.If no resolution comes out of it I think you should acknowledge the fact that this isnt working out for both you and just take seperate ways.
Of course now you want to get the burden off your chest by telling her sister that you really love her.Perhaps its not the best thing to do if you plan on getting a divorce.Perhaps her sister will view you as an enemy then and there is zero chance she mixes it up with you do to her sister being married to you.
Its a tough situation but maybe you should wait a little after the divorce to tell her how you've felt al this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): thank-you to the anonymus male that wrote on october 3rd.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): To everybody else who put up answers maybe this guys wife is not the angel or victim everybody is picturing her to be. Maybe the husband is not in love with her wife because she has not been the best wife and unfortunately sees the better qualities in the sister. Shoot it doesnt even have to be the sister, I think people look at other people outside the relationship and look for qualities they dont get in the relationship theyre already in but want them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): I wish I knew what to tell you to do. I think my sister's husband likes me and I know I LIKE him. I have had a fantasy or two about him, but he is my sisters husband so I dont know if I would ever do anything for real although I have considered it a few times when I had been drinking. Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2007): Your an horrible man! divource your wife and let her meet someone better than you. If her sister is anyway a decent person she won't touch you
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reader, daglish  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 Now u are at the edge of disaster that is without mentioning your marriage. If u ever do it, am 95% sure it will take your wife alot of consideration not to break up with you. Plis keep the animal in you under check cos a bird in the hand is worth 2 in the bush.
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reader, leanne.od  +, writes (14 September 2007):
 my advice? divorce your wife now so tht she still has some dignity left but if you tell her sister you love her, you will make a big fool of yourself. her loyalties lie firmly with your wife and she will not choose you over her at all, not now, not ever. you need to move on and stop stringing your wife long but be a real man and walk away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): First: Don't be so selfish to think divorce will benefit only you. Keep in mind if you divorce your wife, you will give her a chance to find true love. She could certainly do better than you.
Second: Do this tactfully. Just get divorced first without being involved with her, and let her stay out of your mess until you get it sorted first with the wife. You owe your wife and her sister that. There is also the possibility her sister will not want to be involved with you because of the family thing. Without meaning to, you would basically make her choose between her family.. and YOU? She could confide in her sister, and she would divorce you and make you the bad guy.. and you would lose big time. But if you do things the honorable way, things could work out... just please, ask a therapist to get this sorted out the right way.
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reader, jasmine200785 +, writes (13 September 2007):
no way u r not for real! leave that well alone u will break up her family and kicking her right in the teeth!
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reader, Vic07 +, writes (13 September 2007):
devorcing your wife for certain reasons is fine but i think its rubbing her face in it a bit if you tell her sister you love her. I think that if you start dating her sister everyone will fall out and you will find yourself in a big mess.
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