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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:my friend and i are best friends for over 5 years. we are both girls. i've been having a crush on her for over 4 years. i dont know what to do. shes straight but sometimes it feels like she can be BI. the fact is because few years after we became best friends we were searching for guys but no one seemed to be the right one. we had our hearts broken alot. then she wanted to go out with me but she change her mind. because she couldnt imagine herself dating her own bestfriend.she hasnt had a boyfriend at all. only i do. but he treats me like if i were a ghost. he doesnt care about me physically, i told him the other time i was at the hospital all night. and he just said oh, he didnt even ask oh what happnened? and the other time i had a car accident he didnt even ask if i was okay! so i feel terrible. sometimes i want to open up to her and tell her how i feel. but im so scared and i know that i will get rejected. and that we may lose our friendship. because then she will feel strange around me. everytime some guy tries to hit on us she always tells them we are gay, then she rubs up on me and holds my hand. she even told one of our guy friends that we were gay and that we had sex. but it was just playing around,. but he took it seriously. so i really dont know what to think anymore. she seems to like men because she tells me about all the cute guys at the stores.
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reader, AnonymousWin +, writes (2 May 2010):
Follow your instincts. I think you should tell her to let it off your chest and to see how much she cares. If something goes bad it'll turn out good afterwards. You should tell her that you look her so then there is no aching pain from keeping it in so long. It'll hurt you more if you don't say it sooner or later. Say what you can say now before later.
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