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writes:Okay so I don't really know where to start, I've been seeing this guy for about two months now, we've known each other longer than that, but it's only been two months that we're actually "dating", or should I say, having sex ... I would love it if he would want want something more with me, but he's the type of guy that doesn't like to be tied down .. Before he used to initiate texting me every time, everyday, and I like to give him space so I barely text him first, because I don't wanna seem clingy, and also I guess I'm trying to play the "hard to get" type hahah, but now he never texts me or he only texts me just so that we can "get together", again have sex. Last time he said "I love you" jokingly, but I son't know if it was sincere, or if he just said that in the moment. I kind of wanna tell him how I feel, but I don't want to scare him or whatever, so pleaaaaase help me ! Because I really really love him !(Oh and by the way, I'm only 16, and he's 17, and he was also my "first time" )
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2011): He is using you for sex sweetie, he only wants to know you when he wants sex, he is not showing any feelings towards you and you have fallen for him. I think that you should get out of the relationship as soon as you can and delete all contact you have with him or you will be in the relationship for ages, i was in the same situation for 2 years and i still have contact with the boy 3 years on and he still only talks when he wants sex
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 July 2011):
 Ah sweetie... I am afraid that you are so wasting your first love on someone who does not know what to do with it. 16, and already involuntarily stuck in an FWB situation. FWBs only work if both parties are on the same page and want the same thing , but you are in love , and he is not ( Never mind what he says- watch what he does, which is using you for sex only ). That's a bad situation to be at only 16- you could ask so much more from life and from men, if only you had not fixated yourself on this boy.
The smartest thing would be to dump him and move on to someone you can have a real, mutually loving relationship with , just throwing it out there, because I know you won't listen to this kind of advice.
As for telling him your feelings, ask yourself WHY you want to do it. Chances are he guesses it already and does not give a damn, as long as you put out . So , if you want to declare him your love in the hope that this will melt his heart and make him change toward you... slim chances.
If you can't hold yourself and need to tell him , otherwise you burst :),you can tell him, no I don't think he'll be that scared that he will disappear. Just, it won't make a big difference, it seems in your relationship the ground rules have already been set, and he has already decided that you are good enough for sex but not for dating. I doubt whatever you say can change that- you'd be throwing pearls ( of love ) to swines.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2011): I know this is going to sound very harsh, but there is a possibilty he's taking advantage of you for the sex. I'm sure you've already contemplated this, so only you really know. If you're serious about him, though, I would definately say that it's worth the risk to speak to him about it. It could turn out I'm completely wrong and he's just afraid of commitment, so you'll have no idea until you ask. Good luck! x
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reader, cupidconspiracy  +, writes (24 July 2011):
girl he is not your type...u loved him bt he didn't seem to be reciprocate...he is just intrested in physical relation...so better watch up.The world is full of guys who will understand ur feelings nd nt jst intrested in that stuff.so i will recomend to leave this guy nd carry on ur life
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reader, josephy  +, writes (24 July 2011):
 so you saying that he contacts you only when he wants sex? well girl, you should put in mind that he might be using you. Try to find out first are you more than a sex buddy to him or not? then act from it.
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