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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Me and my bf been through a lot and we love each other deeply. I always got along well with his families, and his parents always show a warm and friendly face to me, so I love and respect them with my whole heart because I thought they were nice people. However, my feeling has been hurt recently because I just knew that his parents were actually angry at me and badmouth me, they once talked a lot bad about me to my bf. When I knew this, my reflection: OMG! How could be? And then I got the point, they were not happy about I lived in their house for 4 weeks and without paying. Actually, I did. At that time, my rental was expired so be4 looking for a suitable place I just move to live with my bf temporary.Before I move out I gave an envelop with money inside to my bf’s mother and she insisted not to accept it, and finally she said if you really want to then give it to XX (my bf). So I gave it to my bf but everybody knows that good bf wouldn’t take gf’s money, my bf didn’t, too. Later his mom found out and blame him didnt take the money and both of his mom and dad complained about me, they thought it was me didn’t give the money to my bf. After knowing this, I gave the same amount of money to my bf immediately and this time he accepted. I thought the thing was over, but later I knew that his parents are still not happy and start to talk bad about me behind my back. I really can’t endure this, I am trying to love his parents because I love my bf but now I feel I’m so innocent, and I want to go to talk to his parents to solve the problem but afraid of the fight. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2008): Ignore it. Misunderstandings and backstabbing happen in all families, if you have not encountered this then you are very lucky. You behaved well. They expect money after 4weeks of looking after you, you provided it. The misunderstanding came from your boyfriend. He knows his parents should be payed, but at the same time he can't take money from you.
Forget it. They now have their money. If the subject is brought up in your presence then laugh and say "oh that old thing, my poor boyfriend tried to play the man and wouldn't pass on the money his parents deserved." As a perfect gentleman he should now take the blame and leave you as innocent as you are.
Don't sweat it, it's a misunderstanding, they are behaving badly, but that's parents for you. Don't take it personally, it probably means they love you if they're talking about you and trying to get you to behave with perfect manners. The probably do the same to all their children including their son.
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