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writes:Hey guys... Another dilemma here. There's this friend of mine I have some feelings for but the past couple of days I've really been doubting myself and any chance of a relationship. I want to talk to her but I feel like I'll just end up looking desperate if I continue. I don't know what to do. I've admitted some thirsty sounding things to her in the past, not about her but about relationships in general. I was going through a pretty serious depressive bout because I felt no one cared about my feelings enough to give me a chance. Nowadays, I'm doing pretty good but I'm just feeling a lot of doubt with this situation. I don't feel this often. I just want hope that the friend zone isn't my destination. I just don't know... I feel like there's a strong chance because we've both been through a lot when it comes to relationships , we've know each other practically forever, and we seem alike in a lot of ways I just have a lot of doubt right now. Any advice? Anything to say anyone? Your responses are all much appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, Angel S  +, writes (17 February 2014):
 Oh ok! Well it still sounds promising. I agree to let graduation pass first and see how the moving state thing works out. But do listen to your instinct, if its time to tell her then tell her but if you feel better waiting it out do so! I've learnt on more times than most that listening to your gut feeling is always the best decision!
Good Luck & there will always be help for you here!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a bunch for your answer. I would love to be able to talk to her about it, but there's one thing I left out. We don't live in the same state. We actually just saw each other for the first time in 10+ years last year and since we found each other again it's been pretty apparent that we've both been getting shoved through the ringer when it comes to relationships. This is a conversation obviously best had in person and I won't be able to do so until spring break, most likely summer. However we're both graduating and I might end up in the same state for good anyways. I'm gonna take my time with it. It kind of feels like it's set up to happen anyways.
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reader, Angel S +, writes (15 February 2014):
It's good that your friends, you should feel able to talk to her about this. I have a lot of guy friends as I find them much easier to get along with than girls and I know if any of them started to have feelings for me and told me, even if I didn't feel the same I would be glad that they could tell me and I wouldn't at all be bothered. You don't have to ask her out or anything at this moment in time you could just maybe give her an insight on how your feelings for her and see what she has to say. In a worst case scenario she will be flattered but ask to stay as friends. I know your probably thinking you may lose her as a friend but it honestly shouldn't come to that if you have been friends for so long! I say bite the bullet and tell her how you feel. Don't go in all guns blazing but if she feels the same way at all and you miss the opportunity you'll both have missed out! Go for it and let us know how you get on.
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