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writes:My boyfriend and I are having terrible disputes over being on the phone. Ikay I've been with my bf for 2, going on 3, years and he knows I love talking on the phone and particularly with him. So he always gets on the phone and don't say anything and I get mad becuz I'm feeling bored with him. So I tell him bye, and call somebody else and he gets mad. We argue about this issue almost every time we are on the phone. What's wrong and how can I fix this??? Reply to this Question
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reader, lilred112 +, writes (6 February 2011):
lilred112 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Lol although that was yrs ago.. and we are totaly over that. I just learned to accept it and respect how he felt and stopped pushing him as much about it and eventually he came around lol.. I kno sit and think sometimes why did he call me.. and have nothing to say. Lol. But I think of when I was younger and did the exact same thing.. I actually prefer to text now.. lol..
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): dear a female,
i totally understand what you are talking about! my boyfriend and i have been going out together for almost three years. he is in a different part of the country to me and the only communication i have with him is through the phone, but he never seems to want to talk. I know he loves me but i dont think he understands that talking and communicating to him is very important to me, is it the same with you? guys just dont seem to understand do they?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): some times every one lose his passion towards peopl he care for . it does not mean that you got to give up every tiny amasing thing happened with them ,leave aside your care about your feeling.and think carfully inalogical way ,how to find out what realy happen with you and your be beloved.i think love still there in the depth of your heart ,search for it . ibelive you will be back very soon
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reader, lilred112 +, writes (1 June 2006):
lilred112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHay guys i have great news!!! thanks soo much ur advice really worked.. i tested it out a few days and gave him space and didnt ask him why he didnt call or called him and everthing is going great... he calls me on his own and actually be in a good mood about bein on the phone i guess since he dont feel im pressuring him to do it... thanks guys i love yall soo much...........
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reader, poison_0250 +, writes (30 May 2006):
 Most men do the same thing,sometimes they get bored talking on the phone just what i am experiencing right now,there is one time that my bf says "don't force me to call you",and of course it hurts,let him do what he want to do,men love do attention but sometimes that attention is too much they hate him,so i advice you to let him do what he want to do,don't expect him too much because at last you will be hurt...Wait for him too call you... and if you do your be happy,let him miss you...Good luck..
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (30 May 2006):
 I agree with Phoebe, as soon as I read your question I thought hes not a phone person. Lots of men are like this. I live with my man, but I know before we did in the begining we would be on the phone for ages, mainly me harping on and him listening,he was like what do we talk about ? Hes like I only saw you an hour ago, or we only spoke a little while ago, and they cant understand why we want to talk so much! lol Maybe chat less often on the phone, or try to find a list of things to talk about... I know you just want to hear his voice and talk about nothing much, but men find this a little annoying as they cant understand why we want to talk about nothing! Woman are good at rambling on, men tend to want to talk about specific issues. See if by reducing the time you chat on the phone helps a little and like Phoebe says text instead, alternate it a bit and maybe it will naturally fall into place.
Take care.
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reader, lilred112 +, writes (30 May 2006):
lilred112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell he do like texting better but me i dont like to be alone im so spoiled cuz im the baby and i just have to be on the phone.. He is not a phone person he said he never talked on the phone like this be4 he met me.. But i want to talk to him.. Is that selfish of me?? Am i wrong for demanding him to talk to me when we are on the phone?? Is it right to get mad when he dont?
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (30 May 2006):
 Dear Reader,
have you ever thought he's just not a phone person. Maybe talking to him on the phone makes him miss you in some way? Maybe he's just more of a face to face person. Quick Fix suggestion - don't talk to him on the phone, text him, go out for dinner. Go places with him. If you don't phone him then you can't argue. I'd just stick to texting if possible. Is this any help?
Good Luck, All the Best and Blessed Be,
Phoebe
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