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*endersmile
writes:I have this guy in my life i feel for, he is really a nice guy and lives overseas we have met a couple of times, We talk on phone and he likes me too. I want to marry him but he is unstable financially so he wants me to get independent earn on my own go to Australia, get a degree or earn a livelihood and I keep falling for him,as i want to be close to him as early as possible, though I know he is struggling in his life. He knows that I want to marry him and sometimes he tells me he wants the same but he has not got enough for us to survive and he wants to be something before getting married. But in spite of knowing all this, there are things which make me doubt his intentions at times that he is seriously interested in marrying me or just passing time with me. And i find it really difficult to do as he says though it is my dream to study in Australia too, but then i will be soo far off from him and my family the thought of it just makes me sad, and i feel like someohe has taken my heart in his hand and squeezed it. I don't know whether i should do all this or not, and for this guy or not. Since I have never been away from my mom for long...so its kind of killing me, as i have my love, my life and its demands on one side and my mom, my homeland and my friends on the other side...Can i survive this situation? and what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, tendersmile +, writes (12 April 2014):
tendersmile is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for an honest perspective
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reader, DonaldJ  +, writes (3 December 2013):
What you are up against is a decision to make of two options..Continuing playing life like a stupid kid plays on the bed when your parents are away.. Or get with the program, to build yourself into what you wants you to be.. If you aren't ready for a relationship, you aren't ready...It's like what my niece did.. She had a few top level boyfriends, and dumped them the moment they made her feel even momentarily disgusted...She saved her real love till she finished a couple years university..She dated boys who were entrepreneurs, who had started their own businesses.. but dumped them the moment they proved to be just sucky babies or moronic bullies..She met a top level microsoft exec, and married him.. Now her life is upper class glory all day, and every day...
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