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female
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30-35,
*francy
writes:I am in a relationship with a guy I don't love. The thing is I already confessed I loved him but now I wanna get out! What should I do to avoid hatred between the two of us? Will he feel betrayed when I tell him I don't really feel anything for him? The other thing is that I wanna forget my ex quickly but I just can't get him outta my mind even for a single beat of breath.... I mean he is constantly on my mind... every time I go to bed his face appears as well as in m every day dreams...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): Oh dear, I think you are asking us how do you get out of this, with little pain and self-imposed guilt for you! You can't, hun. No matter how you tell him, he will react with hurt. But you've realized, you just don't hide yourself in the convenience of a unhappy relationship while covertly loving another man (the ex). That's so unfair to your current bf. There is no easy way, but you need finally, be truthful. That's the least you can do when you bring the hammer down on this relationship. And the sooner the better. Breaking up a relationship is not a pleasant thing to do, but millions do it everyday. And I think this situation, deserves your full honesty. My suggestion: Is buck up, and do the deed. Take extra care in your choice of wording, but don't lie to him, again. Don't be fake or insincere. In the final hour, he truely deserves your full honesty. Unfortunately, we can't tell you how he's going to take it but if he loves you, of course, it likely will be tough for him. But doing this quickly and maturely is important, so that he can move on with his life and find someone else better suited for him.. And he will do that after he heals and recovers. And remember, a relationship really needs two people caring, so if one of you doesn't want to be in the relationship any more, it really makes sense for 'both' of you to end it. Perhaps that the message to get across to him. The sooner you do it...the sooner he can heal from this and move on with his life.
Good luck.
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