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writes:I am very confused. I've been with my husband for 20 years and we're very happy. Over the last 12 months or so I have become quite friendly with a married man - our kids are friends. We see each other about twice a week at school, just to say hi or small chit chat, but we have had a few deeper interesting conversations when our children have been together on the holidays. I really enjoy his company and I really believe he does too.I can't say why, but I just get a feeling by the way he likes to linger around and talk, always smiling and even sometimes seems a little nervous around me.Should I be concerned...? I am probably imagining the whole thing, right?I would appreciate any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): I really believe that it is probably my own vanity at play here. He is really just a friendly, shy guy and i shall keep any of these silly thoughts to myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): girl, you are opening up a can of worms. ths will eventually destroy your life, if you want to broach the subject with him, be warned...let me fast track the possible outcome.....
passionate affair, get caught, ugly divorce , hatred towards you by ALL concerned, both spouses, kids, family. no lover in the end.
Is this what you want? Spend the positive energy in your marriage....good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): I am afraid that I may be developing feelings for him and this frightens me. I'm not sure if I should broach the subject jokingly about how we seem to get on really well together, or just ignore these feelings completely. I would love to be able to talk about it with him, but I worried about the answer I may get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): This happens all the time. There's 'chemistry' between you, BUT know it's common, and you should distance yourself from him if you don't want to jeopardize your 20yr marriage. Aren't you happy when your hubby 'avoids' a woman that goes out of her way to get too friendly? One time my husband told me a woman at work almost propositioned him in an elevator, but he turned her down. I sound like a mom, but I was so proud of him:p
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): Have you got feelings for this guy? as why else would you be concerned or imagining things.I think you are hoping that something will happen between you both?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2009): Do you like this 'flirting' that you sense from him? If you don't want it to go anywhere it won't.... or will it? I get the feeling you are feeling vulnerable to his possible interests. In which case don't you think the question is more about how you could be getting tempted by another man - whether or not he is making advances? Maybe his interest in you is something you are simply flattered with and don't know how to handle. Just see it for what it is - a male that thinks you're great. Develop it further and you could find yourself very tangled - and do you want everything on the line for that?
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reader, charlie sprocket  +, writes (19 March 2009):
Hi good question, I was in a similar situation where I became good friends with a lady I worked with, unfortunately the freindship on my side became a bit deeper, only in my imagination though, it caused no end of problems for me at home, so a word of warning just be careful as you could put a spanner in the works of your LTR. Hope this helps
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