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writes:My boyfriend loves me and i love my boyfriend more than anything else in the world and i want to spend the rest of my life together with him (yes i am gay!) I have an inherited disease called Cystic Fibrosis and i wont live to be beyong my mid 20s. My boyfriend knows that i have CF and he is cool with it.The problem is that i will die long before he will and i want to spare him the heart brake when i go. He says that he will always love me until then end and i will too! It is just that i want to let him down gently to save him the heart brake later on for him. How should i do it, if i should do it? Help me out! Reply to this Question
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reader, Merisier  +, writes (13 October 2008):
reading your add has touch so much me a lot, and im so and so sorry to hear that about you but listen dont let your boyfriend go, if he wants to be there with you untill end of time let him be. and he wants to do it because he loves you. If you dont mind me asking you, how old are you now? well there is only one ting i can do for you, im going to keep you in my prayes. May God be with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): Do you think he'll feel any different when he hears of your death if he's there when you go or not?
No. He'll still feel like shit. Thats because thats how people are SUPPOSED to feel with the death of a loved one.
Denying yourself access to someone you love because you have a terminal illness is just gonna make your last days, weeks, months or years miserable.
No sense in both of you feeling like shit.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): PS: Yes it can happen like that. My friend has leukemia, she should have died at 12years old. But after taking new treatments and a total DNA swap, she is still alive at 26 and is the mother of a "miracle" baby that the doctors said would never have.. Unfortunately she lost her mother, freak accident. Her mother was healthy and happy, and unfortunately got run over by a motorbike a couple of years ago. Life's funny like that sometimes, so don't worry, just enjoy life..Don't give up nothing, until you are forced to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): Sorry, but this rushing death is no good. He may go before you, he might get knocked down by a car tomorrow. Who knows what the future may bring...
"Today, advances in research and medical treatments have further enhanced and extended life for children and adults with CF. Many people with the disease can now expect to live into their 30s, 40s and beyond." Cystic Fibrosis Foundation...
Don't give up today's happiness for what might happen tomorrow. He knows that things may get worse, but the scientist are working hard on new treatments, don't ever give up and let life pass you by. You've found somebody to love, just be in love, have fun, and let him and you tackle this awful disease together. Why do you want to make him cry, why do you want to think of sad things. Come back if your disease progresses to dangerous levels, and the advice may be different. But for now, your a person with health issues, just like millions of people in the world. We don't want you and your boyfriend to also struggle with unhappiness and loneliness on top of what you already have to deal with in life. Make every moment special and let the future take care of itself...
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 If your b/f is cool with your disease, then why don't you just enjoy the fact that you have someone to share your last days with, instead of facing them alone? You're b/f sounds like he's fairly strong. Don't rob both of you of at least getting to enjoy what time you have left together. And who knows, miracles happen all the time. There are medical break-throughs in science all the time. They may find a cure before your time is up, or possibly a way to prolong your life. Don't give up. Have faith and keep asking God for strength.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): It is nice that you are thinking about him so much BUT maybe you better also think that by breaking up now you might make him go through so much more heartache. If you love each other I doubt breaking up will make him happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): Can I just say welldone you are very brave to talk about this so frnakly and I really respect you for wanting the best thing for your boyfriend. But put yourslef in his shoes. If he loves you that much breaking up with him in any way will upset him. And even if you arent together when you do die it will still hurt him almost as much, because he will find out. I think you should enjoy the time you have together while you can. Surely it is a reason to live life to the full, rather than the opposite? Good luck to you both.
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