A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay I put up a profile for fun and have been talking to this guy. He lives pretty far in another state. We didn't meet on a dating site but just had a connection (pun Not intended) So the time has kind of come for us to exchange pictures. The problem is I'm a bit overweight. I've already lost 45 pounds since the beginning of the year, but I would like to lose about 20 more. I used to weigh around 200 and I'm 5'5. Also because I'm losing such a huge amount of weight I have noticed my arms already have saggy skin and my breasts are much smaller. I am planning on having plastic surgery to correct this. So I'm wondering if I shoud take pictures even though I'm not my ideal self and will likely change! Another option is to take some photos but get them a bit edited to look a bit slimmer. I honestly don't have many recent pictures of myself, I have some from 5-7 years ago but I don't really look anything like that today and like a younger teen. I can wait several months until I get to my goal weight but that takes time and I'm worried he won't be around or wonder what's going on if I wait until then. Plus he's already sent several pictures of himself and seems to be interested in what I look like. I really like him alot and don't want to mess things up. However I know how big guys can be on appearance. What do I do?
View related questions:
breasts, overweight Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, YouWish +, writes (31 May 2011):
 You're 5'5" and weigh 155? First, that's awesome that you're losing weight! Congrats on your work so far! That's awesome!
You're not that bad! It's not like you're a 400 pound obese person. While you're working on losing more weight, maybe focus on some pictures of your face. I've seen some pictures of women who take pictures looking slightly up at the camera - makes their face look thinner because the cheekbones and jaw look thinner as they look up.
What you don't want to do is send pictures from years ago. The chief complaint about internet dating is that the pictures no longer match what the person looks like now. Best to suck it up and take a couple of flattering shots of the face to start with, and as you keep working on the weight loss, then start adding body shots to your repertoire.
Good luck!
|
