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writes:I am obsessed with the thought of seeing my wife having sex with other men. I am from a very conservative background, and my wife was a virgin untill she met me. We are not into wild parties etc either. But I just can't shake off the thought of sharing her with other men (threesome etc), or having her sex with another man while I watch. She loves the thought of it, and gets extremely excited while we talke about it in bed (only while making love). But she also says that she only wants me to enter her vaginally, etc. I get totally confused thinking about whether she is really willing to try it, or is she just getting along as a playfull fantasy. How do I find out? I have no guts to bring it up in a setup outside of bed (when we are intimate). The only thing that tells me that she entertains the thought too is that her intensity in every which way increases many folds while we are talking about this subject in a very dirty way while making love..... what should I do?
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (21 January 2010):
 No it is not dirty talk, or fantasy, as is termed by many advisers. As you admit that you both have orthodox back ground, and not in habit of wild party. Most emphatically, you both are not inspired childishly from porn films. You both have achieve some great thing in your sexual activity, which general couple cannot dream for themselves. So, you should first know the root and nature of such desires.
You both have win mutual trust. You both have enjoy sex in totality. You both have break the barrier of your perceptual vision, and enter into your conceptual vision, and where you both have seen the real and true glory of sex. For you sex is totality, and not something separation of love etc. Now for you both, sex is not just a relaxation to have sound sleep. For you, the meaning of sex is not the same as all most rest of the couples in culture live that normal meaning.
For you both, sex now means higher and still higher form of ENERGY, which you both cannot manage own your own, you both feel to manage 'threesome' not the way pornography show, but to organize circuit like position so that energy can have root for easy flowing, so that more and more energy generation became possible.
In my opinion, based on my learning, you both need more intensive knowledge. Think over my answer, and feel free to mail me, and in turn I will suggest you some literature on the subject.
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