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anonymous
writes:About 9 years ago I met a guy that still has my heart or maybe my mind. He was the first guy that gave me the butterfly feeling. He was also the first guy to make my heart ached. We didn't have an established relationship, we were getting very comfortable with talking on the phone and talked almost if not every night. So 9 years ago, when we talked for about 3 weeks or so before I broke it off before we even started because I got upset that he wasn't specific on when we were supposed to meet and that I was very excited and looked forward to seeing him so I was disappointed. I was young and short-tempered so after screaming at him for not taking our date seriously, I gave him no a chance to explain nor did I care much about it anymore. He called many times but I told him to stop calling and screamed at him for being inconsiderate and insensitive. Time flew by, I went to college, date, life got busy. Until recently, maybe not too recent, I still see him here and there but usually just by chance. He's a newscaster and it's easy to see him if I just go to the website or the channel. He's also a teacher at a school not far away. He also host some concerts/shows in the local community. It's funny to think that I might need to buy tickets to see him, it's so weird. When I see his face, my mind goes on a trip and nostalgia kicks in. Does this mean I still have very strong feelings for him? I'm constantly wondering if he's still single. I see pictures of his brothers that are married/children but no sign of him being married/children. I want to be proactive and see how's he doing but deep down I'm a little hesitant because it has been 9 years! I think I still have his email but still it's awkward because I did lash at him and we ended, at least I did, quite bitter. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, fishdish +, writes (5 January 2010):
 I'd try email, just cause it's the least awkward, you can plan how things go on your end, and he has an escape route (the option of not responding). I would just say something like hey x, i know it's been a while and I know I left things on a bad note but I have been wondering how you're doing, if you want to grab a cup of coffee or dinner and catch up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShould I email him, call, or physically find him? It's a little awkward like I mentioned because I ended our relationship before it even started and did scream at him and etc. If I do contact him, what should I say?
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reader, fishdish +, writes (5 January 2010):
people can change and mature in 10 years, I think it's worth satisfying your curiosity to look into what your former flame is up to these days. maybe you'll rekindle a friendship (or more) out of it!
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