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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend says I'm jealous. Here's why he may think so: he's still good friends with his ex (and her entire family) and goes to visit her at work and her home. She takes him to concerts and invites him out, but doesn't include me. At the same time, he's annoyed that I don't befriend her! He also mentions other girls from the past that he was either with or wished he'd been with. When I was out of town recently, he went to see an old friend he'd found on facebook. Turns out he wanted to cheat on me with her, but didn't have the nerve to, and she doesn't appear interested anyway.It makes me feel like I'm just what he's settling for, not what he really wants. He gets defensive and angry if I bring it up. I have gone out of my way for this fellow. I even pay all the bills of our household and have for years. He's got mental health issues (borderline personality disorder) which I have done my best with to help, but he won't go to therapy or a doctor. He also hates women, especially his mother; and when he gets angry, he puts words in my mouth that would fit her, but certainly not me. Don't I deserve a little consideration and respect? I'd like to make things work with him, but he's so hurtful and mentally abusive, that I'm losing some self respect for taking this treatment.
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reader, Xolani  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 You are indepedent so leave him. Why did he leave his ex and the whole family when they seem to get along just fine? Let him go and move on.......
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reader, laayyla  +, writes (5 January 2010):
Hey! GEt out NOW! This guy's not worth it...
the issue is not whether or not you're jealous. the FACT is that you are in an abusive relationship. the issue is not whether HE is settling or not... its that YOU ARE!!! You need to get some backbone, and you need to start loving yourself. when you start to love yourself, you will find someone who really loves you, and deserves you
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