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writes:I'm just looking for some guidance really. I met a girl over a dating website some time ago and we've been talking for a few months now. We finally had the chance to meet yesterday, so we went out and we seemed to have a very nice evening. We got the chance to get to know each other better, conversation was consistently interesting and we shared a lot of laughs.When we got home I sent her a message telling her I got back safely and to thank her for a good night. She said she thought it went very well and we'd have to do it again sometime (she seems sincere) and I said that I'd love to take her out again. (too strong? Am I over-analysing here?)I'd really like to see her again and I hope to secure a second date, I just wondered if anyone can give me some advice on how I might do that? I don't want to come on too strongly with her, or God forbid scare her off. Can you give me any advice? Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, freeme  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 It doesn't sound like you are coming on too strong at all. If she were refusing your advances, then I would say you were.
I would set up another date with her within the next day or two, then let the anticipation build a bit up to the date if you are worried about this.
It doesn't hurt to send a couple messages in between... Things like, "I'm looking forward to Friday" etc. 1 a day vs, say 10 is the difference between coming on too strong, in my opinion. Good Luck.
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reader, N91 +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Give it a couple of days and then try and set something else up.
She sounds into you if she had a good time too and she's already told you that she'd like to see you again, so take it from there, give her a few days to think about you and then call her up and make more plans!
Good luck bud
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Hi,
My friend, you don't need any advise. So far, you are doing everything right.
Meeting someone online could be risk, you never know, right?
You have been communicating online only for a few months, which is great, because you want to make sure this person is not weird. I believe the timming was perfect.
Dinner went well, and the fact that you sent her a message aftewords, was sweet of you and shows that you are a respectful person. It was the right thing to do.
You're over thinking. Just be yourself, so far she likes you too, otherwise she wouldn't be in contact with you for months and wouldn't meet you in person. You have nothing to worry about.
If you're happy, show her you're happy. If you like her, show her you like her. Don't hold your feelings and emotions. I know you want to make sure you don't make any mistakes, but what's important in a new relationship is to happen naturally.
You have nothing to worry about. Just make sure she has a good time and enjoy your time with her.
Good luck!
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