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writes: Ive been googling about relationship advise on how to get your ex back "signs that your ex wants you back" and stuff. Thats when i came across the No Contact (NC) rule. Ive been on NC with my ex boyfriend since i broke up with him, december, last year. Ever since that time ive received two calls from him. One in March which i didnt answer and the other in June with different number so i didnt know it was him, i picked up. He told me that he was just checking on me how i was doing etc. I told him "im doing fine thanx" suddenly i was angry. He sensed my anger and told me i should call him whenever i want to talk. I never bothered myself calling him until today. We've not been talking for almost a year now. Ive been very busy with school (university) this year so i only saw him twice when i was home at our shopping centre. The last time i saw him there he was acting all cosy with some girl flirting then realised that i saw him and went away with the girl as if he was trying hard for me not to see him. I just smiled and continued talking with my friend as if i saw nothing. So its been almost a year now and im still single. I think about him and sometimes i want him back and sometimes i dont. Guys who have shown interest in me ive shut them down because they dont make me feel like he did or they are simply not him. Main reason of breakup was that he lied a lot but apologised for that the day we broke up. I want to move on from this feeling. I want to find love and be able to say "hi" to him without any sort of fear or pretence. Any advice? Though his lies (cheating included) broke my heart, I think i still love him and right now i dont know what to do. Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2015): I am in your same situation.My girlfriend broke up with me. I was with my her for nearly a year and just recently broke no contact after 6 months via text. It was just the basic how are you, how is work, how is the family....that sorta stuff....she ended it rather quickly and told me to keep in touch...id like to have her back in my life but I think I agree with the answer above, you have to be very firm and strait forward and just say hey, let's grab some dinner and then just let them know where you are in your life and that you'd like them to be part of it but you need a yes/no answer. No BS, no uncertainties, none of that. That way if you guys don't see eye to eye you can put them out of sight, out of mind and move on! Hope that helped!
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reader, mmaxx  +, writes (13 November 2015):
If you think you can do it try giving him one last chance, but make it clear to him that that is his ONE LAST CHANCE, no more lies, no more bullshit. If it works great, if it doesn't work you at least know you tried and it and you can finally put an end to this. Or you could just wait for the right person like I did. I broke up with my ex and was single for almost 2 years, I pretty much gave up, but then I met this guy, he had such a presence and the way he hugged me when we met, I just melted, forgot my ex rather quickly (before that I was still keeping in touch with him ).
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