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writes:Hi i am currently 17 almost 18 years old and i have secretly been dating by boyfriend for about 10 months now and in a few months i turn 18, and i want to move in with him but my parents dont want us to be together. i have tried talking to them but they keep saying that the only reason they dont want me to see him is cuz he is 20 and all he wants is sex. they wont even meet him i know it my parents job to worry about me but im tired of sneeking aroung and lying to them but i absolutely love my boyrfiend and he feels the same about me. ive tried telling my parents i dont know how many times but they just dont want to hear it cuz they think im going to go off and i get pregnant which im not cuz im not sexualy active the farthest ive gone is oral. my boyfriends family are very supportive they even consinder me there family. i wish my parents felt the same way about my boyfriend. ive tried to have my parents met him, but instead im still lying to see my boyfriend cuz nothing is going to make us stop seeing each other. some may say this is lust but its not we really do love each other. my parents and i dont have the greatest relationship but i wish they could see that i want to be with him. i turn 18 in a couple of months the question is should i move in with him? im scared that if i do ma parents will be angry with me for a long time, and i was brought up to respect your parents wishes, which most of the time i do except when it comes to seeing my boyfriend. i hate disrespecting my parents but i love my boyfriend. im so confused. please help me. Should i go for it and move out of my parents house and into with my boyfriend? or stay at my parents house and keep fighting the situation? Reply to this Question
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reader, mr toyboy  +, writes (22 July 2010):
At your age, you education should be more important to you more than anything else.
If you live with him, the likelihood of falling pregnant is big, will you guys be able to afford that?
Also, you guys are very young and the younger you are, the more intense the relationship is, but at the same, young people get bored easily, and whats going to happen if he gets bored?
Just weigh your options before you make a decision, though i will say, stay at home and still be with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): Your only real option is to get a job and move out. At 18, you neither need nor should desire their blessing for that.
You are approaching adulthood soon and its time you learned how to be one.
Flynn 24
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 July 2010):
 Look,personally I think at 18 a girl is not judicious enough even to choose a pair of shose, forget about a live-in boyfriend, so if you ask me my opinion would be : stay home with your parents and don't be in a rush to go play house, it won't be half fun as it sounds. But I admit I am biased.
The real problem is that if you stay home , financially supported by your parents, you still have to live by their rules even if you are over 18, so if they don't want you to meet your boyfriend, you really won't have much leverage no matter what's your age. Therefore if you want to pursue this relationship you will have to go against your parents ' wishes and go live with him. let's keep our fingers crossed and hope for the best. Good luck !
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