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writes: Where have all the good guys gone? Anymore it seems like all guys are interested in is sex. why doesn't anyone want to take the time to get to know my personality? Please Help me...I want to meet someone nice. Where do i go? Reply to this Question
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reader, cleanwithit +, writes (6 December 2006):
Well there are good guys out there, it's just the key to find them.... The "good guy", might be right infront of you, and the "good guy", may not be the cutest guy in the world, thats why it's so hard to find a good guy because girls focus to much on the looks, i said "most" lol. But alas all guys want sex, it's just our nature.
-Josh
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reader, eriella +, writes (6 December 2006):
eriella is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all...but especially 'anonymous' who wrote on december 3rd...let's talk sometime...not sure how...but just thought you should know i look forward to talking with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2006): All men are programmed for sex but there are still some of us who prefer to get to know somebody first. Sex is so much better if there is depth in a relationship. Dont really know why I am replying as dont suppose i'll get a response, but would love to get to know the personality behind the question. Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): Mr. Anon wrote: "you are not looking for someone a-sexual"
And I respond: [laughs] Fantastic. 8] It's true that even the good guys like sex.
Ms. Eriella, a few factors to clue in on. First, where are you meeting most of your male appeal? Second, do they all kind of resemble each other in the basic characteristics? Maybe you should also take a look at yourself as well. I don't think it's a matter of finding someone who isn't just into sex [coughs], but also a matter of how men in general perceive you to be.
How do you act? How do you talk, and what do you talk about? Who are you talking to? Who are you hanging around with, and how do they act and express themselves? How frequent do you go to those places?
As Ms. Anon below suggested about going on a few dates to get to know them, etc, I'm telling you that the dating game is all about trial and error. If you still don't learn from the first 10, then possibly you should step back, brainstorm a bit and see what are the things that you're doing over and over and over again, and change them!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006):
'Good guys' enjoy sex too.
Just to clarify- you are not looking for someone a-sexual, you are looking for someone willing to delay sex until an appropriate time in your relationship?
There are no shortage of guys will to accept that condition, although you may not find them in Ambercrombie.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 The thing you need to realise is that most men will want sex if they think the girl they're after is 'that' kind of girl. Not many men will turn sex down if it is offered to them on a plate and you just have to be careful that you don't give off the vibe that that's all you're looking for too.
Once a guy gets to know you, he'll learn to respect you and maybe even love you if things go well. If you have sex too soon or do something to lose that respect for you, then things will never go any further. You just have to be patient and wait until it's time for you to start trusting him.
These guys don't hang around in the same places. But I'd avoid clubs and bars where they might be drunk. Just enjoy your single life and let the guys come to you. You never find what you're looking for when you are looking too hard.
I know it can be hard when it seems that men all want one thing and all you want is to be cared about and have a good relationship. There are men out there who do want sex and don't be fooled by their niceness: a lot of the time, men will do a lot of work to get you in bed and too many girls mistake this for the guy actually liking her.
Just be patient and wait. Someone decent will come along, they're not all like this. There are plently of guys who want exactly what you want and who are looking for a girl who cares for them and isn't 'easy'.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): I no what you mean!
Most men that think they are attractive are the ones that only really think about sex.. they think that if they are good looking they dont need to have a good personality.. you need to find the right person which is extremely hard but its good to search for a good man such as blind dates, clubs, pubs, bars. I'm sure you probably want a really attractive man with a fantastic personality your just going to have to keep trying.. but dont't forget, alot of men do love sex and its probably if a man said that to you they like you alot and they want to see you in bed but i wouldnt reccomend it because they could be freaks.. you should go on a few dates to get to know them and maybe even tell them "Get Real!"
I hope this helps if not sorry x
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