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writes: What are reasons for guys to broke a perfect relationship up if there was no cheating involed?If he was so happy with me then why would he broke it off? We always got along there was no fighting or anything. I was the perfect girlfriend.......Im not materialistic and im not one to ask for things from a man cuz im very independent. I just dont understand it. Now when i see him hes not happy. Hes very sad and he shuts people out....(he even shut his bestfriend/roommate out)But this was his choice. I just dont understand why he would torture himself or me.Im on my way to recovering cuz i love this man will all my heart and we both take the broke up hard. Im doing better then i was before and im very proud of how much i have improved. Never thought i be where i am today........I know that he didnt cheat on me and i know for a fact that he's not out there looking for someone else cuz he told me that he doesnt want a relationship right now and that he just wants to be friends for now. But if this was his choice then why isnt he happy with what he wanted? I feel so bad cuz hes not happy and i see him suffering but i cant do anything about it. It hurts me to see him like this......What can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2006): If he won't communicate with u why he broke up with u and has caused him so much grief, then let's put it into perspective.
Why would I break up a perfectly good relationship with somemone whom I may adore and love?
[ponders] Possibly due to an illness. Possibly due to knowing my faults and having the fear that I may never give her the happiness and comfort she deserves. Possibly due to being ultra sensitive to seeing you even happier with one of guy friends, even if in reality, you have absolutely no feelings for your friend, it may make me feel that you definitely deserve someone a lot better than myself. Possibly due to my own woes, things happening outside of your influence that is causing me massive stress, that I feel I should not burden you with. Possibly due to something I did while at a bar with some friends and some girl kissed me, thus making me feel really guilty, breaking up with you would make me feel it's a sort of punishment for me.
Well, that last one, is foolish, but for some guys, it's possible. 8|
So what can u do? Unless you actually know why he did what he did, you can't do much of anything. The most prudent thing, though as much or a risk it may be, is just leave him be, possibly calling him up once in awhile, maybe even see him once every week or so, to check up on him.
What I would do if I were in your shoes? March up to his house, and shake the sh*t out of him and tell him that he deserves to be alone and lonely forever, without friends, without the comfort of a good girlfriend who treats him right, without the love of his family, and tell him that he should just go hide under the stairs and lock himself in the darkness forever! Then proceed to tell him stuff like, "You broke up with me, someone who treats you so good, loves you, cares so deeply for you, and in the end, you feel so miserable, reject your good friends, and hide in your house all day! Are you stupid?! You don't talk to me, you keep everything inside, and you expect things will blow over just like that? Be real!"
Of course, saying all that with tears would be a big bonus.
Yeah. Let's just say, I've had a bit of experience in this scenerio a long time ago. Mhmmm... If I were his bro, I would smack him a good one.
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reader, secret  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 how you thought that there is maybe something stopping him being with you? maybe he thinks you are too good for him? there might loads of reason and unless you sit in down and ask him you wont know for sure...good luck
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reader, Karlshare +, writes (28 November 2006):
 Some men just need a brake from girls now and again, maybe its getting too involved with something else, give him a chill out period then tell him your still here for him, im sure we will come back to you and you both can be happy
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