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writes:i've been going out with someone for the past 8 months and i have no complaints because i know he loves me and everyone says he adores me, however before me and him got together i was seeing another guy who is my own race but ended it because he was being long about whether he wanted to be in a relationship or not. My current boyfriend is black and recently some members of my family saw him with me and their saying that i can't see him because we're asian (mauritian). Saturday i saw my ex at a club and fell to my knees when i saw him, and didn't i would i mean i just dropped, we talked and he asked me for a second chance, but i didn't say anything, i texted him saying that if i were to give you a second chance would you make it work and he said he need time to think? but i don't get? i'm very family proud and want to make my whole family proud by marrying a mauritian and doing the typical daughter/daughte-in-law/niece/cousin thing, and know that if i do go out with my ex my family won't have a problem, until my current boyfriend.what would you advise me to do i'm only 19 soon to be 20 and my ex is 22.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008):
Perfect answer from Aunt SerinaBlusera...( your boyfriend is one of your own kind..HUMAN).
Via con dios
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Daniel is right, you should marry for love.
Your boyfriend IS one of your own kind, he is a human.
That's what I say when people pressure me to "stick with your own kind."
I don't have a boyfriend, but I am super attracted to latino guys. I detest racism, by the way, but it's just that I speak Spanish, love latin culture and feel a sense of belonging in latin culture... naturally I would be attracted to a guy from that culture. My family pressures me to marry someone from the same background, but I wonder how well that would work out, considering that at 24, I ran away to live in Mexico (long story :) ).
I know that tradition is very important in many families, but your family loves you. They want you to be happy, because that's part of loving someone. If you love your boyfriend, who cares if he's black.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): You're obviously in two minds about all this, otherwise you wouldn't be posting this. If in doubt - pull out. You are very young still and in British society, have a few years to go until people expect you to marry. Give them both up regarding long term and just remain friends. Forget marriage for a while and just keep friends with guys until the one appears who will really be the one. Then, you'll know it and telling family will be easier because of the strength of the relationship.Good luck.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (23 December 2008):
 I say, marry for love and not for the sake of old tradition.
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