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writes:hiya I've been seeing this 32 yr old for about 2 months now and i want it to end...reason being he cant offer me anything..he doesn't work, he has got 6 children already and all he does is sit around in his house. I just cant find a way of telling him..theres a 20 yr old i met a couple of dayz ago and hes really nice and genuine and we both like each other..he is currently doing a course in bricklaying so at least he isn't bumming about, and hes more my age group plus he hasnt got any children so its a fresh clean slate i can see ahead of me. Well for both of us..but he said he wont get with me coz im still with the 32 yr old..but i just dont know how to tell him..plz can you help me Reply to this Question
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reader, David Lewis +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Just be stright up with the guy.It will only be harder and more complicated the longer you leave it.You may end up losing both if you are not careful.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (15 June 2006):
 You two have only been together for two months? Then you're not exactly welded to each others' hips, are you? You hardly need to say anything, except "I'm sorry, but this isn't working out for me".
I would *hope* -- this being very early days of your relationship -- that you're still only seeing each other casually, a few dates etc. ...Right? Please tell me you're not moved in with each other, or some other daft thing, after only 8 weeks. Please.
So, presuming not, you only need to tell the truth. And the truth is that you don't see the two of you as a long-term relationship because of the many differences in your lives. You're sorry that things didn't work out and you don't want him to be hurt, but that's the way you feel.
There. You're done. It's the truth, isn't it?
He's 32, not 92. And you've only been seeing each other for a few weeks. He won't fall down dead at your feet from the shock.
Off you go, then. Be kind and be sincere.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): You just have to tell him exactly what you said here. No point in beating around the bush and sugar-coating anything. Just say it as it is.
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