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36-40,
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writes:I'm a asian girl who fall in love with a europeian boy that younger than me 3 years , we met each other in my country and we definitely fall in love each other , we 're in relationship until 1 yr 8 months then see each other again ..because that time we both still studying ..but before we met again , he told me he is serious with me and want to make a family with me , so he try to get a job that close to my country and ask me to go live with him but we didn't make anything like what he said until he come to see me as he promise in last december and we both think yes let have a babies together but finally in the days 3 , he ask me to take a pill and said he is not ready because , he could not stay in my country and i might have to take care baby alone , i was feel angry but i did took a drug but after he back we both were not sure that pill will work , that time i am not sure that i will have baby with him but he start to talk to me like dont keep the baby , he is not ready maybe wait for 2 or 3 yrs , we were discusion about this because i told him " she is my baby , my blood , she come from our love i wont do abortion " finally i made a test and find out i didnt pregnant and adter that one week he broke up with me , but after he said that he felt regret , so he still keep calling me even before he said he dont want distance anymore and he dont want me to contact him , he want me to forget him .. i was so damn hurt that time and try to move on , so we had no talked about 3 weeks until he contact me again and ask me why dont me sent him any news , he really feel sad and told me that he had small present for me ..and surprise he fly to see me but yes , he want to see me but as a friend i say yes okay we can be friend ..i want to be sure how he feel with me .. because if he really want me as a friend, i will treat him as a friend and he has to accept it . but while he fly here i was with my family so we didnt meet and he ask me again come to live with him ... After he arrive to the country he want to work that close to my country, he had no news and i have to start my new job too , infact for all hte 2 years that we were together i am the only one that always contact him first and always give him a news but it often that after he got my news , he dont reply and this time i was so angry, worry , tired with his action ...so i stop to sent a news to him and he start complain that i dont care of him and maybe find a richer guy , said that i am a player . he tried to made a story that he was deported from that country and have to put into jail for 2 days and i dont care of him but in fact before that i was asking him but no reply so i just stop asking or showing my care and i didnt believe with what he told me but i still showing my caring again because i still love him even i knew he is lying to me and again we had been talked each other like normal and then he start to be crazy again until last week he asked me did u remember we r not together, i was surprise and feel hurt ..we r not together but u ask me for the love , care , u called me , tell me u need me and tell me dont worry when he is go out because i am the only one that had his love .. after we talked for 3 hours about this things that alway in the one of the problem in our relationship all the time , we r far , i dont want distance relationship but after i told him then we live together he said he cant he have to work and live here , so i told him i will move .. he said he is not ready for any relationship ..and he asked me dont waste the time with him , i can find a better than him . so i finally told him just said that u dont want me anymore then i will move on from your life ..he said he dont want and then after that 6 hours he called me again and siad he miss me , need me , he love me so much , he is not sure i really love him . and made another story again . he said he just adopted the baby girls 5 yrs and want me to be a mother , i was shocked and what ?? why dont we had our own baby and is he ready to take care of someone , i think he cant because he just told me , he is not ready for the relationship.. anyway after i check with his age 24 yrs he could not even adopt any child eve he had a job.. i dont know why he made this story .i think my bf he is too childish .. the way he think the way he act to me , i knew he want my attention and want me to show the love to him .but because i didnt said that i love him or give whatever he want like before and the next day i still ask him like normal ..but no reply from him again , i really felt piss off again that no reply so i decide okay i will stop talking to u again now 4 days we had no talked again .. anyway i still do love him and want he come to see me faster , but he always refuse and said many reasons.. what should i do .. i want to make a family with him because i really love him but i didnt like our relationship keep on and off ..
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reader, uzer  +, writes (26 March 2013):
This guy sounds very childish. I say let him go, even though it hurts. It will only hurt you even more to try to stay with this guy that is confused about what he wants, or maybe playing games with you. He is insane.
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