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writes: i am a single mother of 2 children from diffirent fathers. they are not with me because i am working out abroad to support them. they are now leaving in my own country with me parents. my parents never stop saying everything is my fault and i feel so really down everytime they always tell me because of me, of me, of me..... i am not happy anymore with my own family in my job that i can tell is also stable but i am also not happy anymore since i dont get enough of what i really need. and now in my relation to a new boy friend, i tried it hard to do the best for him, to show him that i care, to show him that i love him. he never give me any reason to think that he dont care of me, he also show to me that he cared., my problem is my self. im scared now that i feel i have a big, big trauma in life.. cos of all bad experience in my life i feel sometimes that i dont understand my self anymore. i want something change but i feel something is stoping it. i want to love my family again, i want to love and to enjoy my job again i dont want to have a doubt to the love of my bf.i want to bring back my happiness inside me., is anybody can help me with this? Reply to this Question
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (1 December 2006):
 Sounds to me that you are under a lot of pressure so you are feeling depressed, cut yourself some slack and chill out more.
It is not fair that your parents blame your for everything.
Parents probably are trying to make responsible for your actions,life, whatever. However they are going the wrong way about it, I am sure that they do not mean to hurt you when they say these things.
They must care about you and are giving your support by looking after your children. Try and learn from their mistakes and be mindful of this when it is your turn to educate your children with morals about life.
Because you are depressed, you do not have a lot of energy to work at any relationship with your boyfriend. Try to talk to him, let him know that you love him and reassure him that he makes you happy it is just you are going through a bad fase and a lot of pressure at the moment.
As to work, well, you are not alone, not everyone enjoys works, it is a necessary evil in life. You are very brave working again and giving up a lot of your social life take responsibilities.
Do not be so hard on yourself and be strong. The only thing stopping your life/emotional state from getting better is yourself.
Stay positive and enjoy life, you can do this!
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