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writes:I have found someone that i really like and want to lose my virginity to, but i dont where i should lose my virginty. I love the idea of doing it in a bed and then falling asleep and waking up together but im only 13 and live my parents and 2 siblings how can we get enough alone time to be intimate ? And where ? Please Help x Reply to this Question
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (7 July 2008):
 I would consider the consequences before you take the action of having sex. If you cant support a baby then you should wait until you can, or atleast the age of consent of your country which judging by other posts is 16. You only have 3 years to go, If you wait you can also see if the guy is the right one. If he is willing to wait with you then you know its right. Its good that your in a protective environment (your parents, and siblings are around) kids these days get into so much and sometimes they need adults around. Seriously is having sex this young something you thought over clearly? Besides the idea of sex and all the romantical things about it...sounds nice, you might think your ready mentally but not emotionally. This is a very big step in a relationship and your prolly not looking for a lecture but please rethink your plan of action or atleast wait until consented age. You will be alot happier you waited, trust me
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Thanks Gecko, you've given this young girl some wonderfull advice. The problem is dear caller, you are too young, things are difficult for you because your too young to have sex. Wait a little while. You present as aged 13 (underage) and currently living in the UK. The age of consent is 16 in the country that we live in. Three years is not a long time to wait. In some countries it's 18 or 21. You can wait, and one day your dream will come true. One day you'll find a boyfriend, you'll have beautifull sex and you'll be able to fall asleep and wake up in his arms. That can't happen now because your too young. It'll be rushed, embarrasing, anxious and difficult. Wait for three years and then you can have the sex you want without anyone telling you, your too damn young. Make sure your 16, make sure you love the guy, make sure he loves you too and treats you right and it'll be the best thing in the world. Hugs, take care of you, body and soul.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 your 13? my god slow down!! please wait a while, you are nowhere near old enough to consider having sex. your still a child! sex is very complicated and has its consequences, and until you're older, your not mature enough to handle wat those consequences may be. and im sure that by browsing around this site, you will find that most ppl that lost theirs at your age or a little older, have always regretted it and wish they had waited. email if you wanna talk a little more but i strongly advise against this.
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reader, M! +, writes (6 July 2008):
 well if you cant find a place to have sex, then its obvious you should wait.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (6 July 2008):
 I lost mine when I was 15 as the guy basically made it clear if I didnt have sex he wouldnt be my boyfriend anymore, he wsa 18. I really regetted it ever since as he turned out to be an arsehole! So wait awhile, please! x
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reader, Lizzie562 +, writes (6 July 2008):
Slow down and wait a while! You're only 13 for a start, what happens if something goes wrong?! I know it's a nice idea to be thinking about these sorts of things, but at 13 you can't exactly be in a loving relationship, as you said you 'really like him' and well is that enough to base this sort of decision upon? Just give it a bit more time, if you do end up doing it, make sure it's somewhere nice, even if your house is full don't resort to the nearest alley-way or park :)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 July 2008):
 I think people must be free to do as they please concerning their sexuality. I also think you would be wise if you waited a few years before you start having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): i lost mine at that age - and i dont recomend it. Wait till your a bit older, i dont think a guy would make it special enough at that age. But as we do - you will probably find a way, i think you know all the ideas of places you could go 2 be alone i.e; hotel, his house. Your young and i feel like i am encouraging underage sex - think about what you do - you might regret it. Dont mean to be against it but if you did wait - you will be glad that you did, the first time needs to be special - i did it while my parents were asleep, thats really really bad - luckily my first was a decent guy but a bit to clingy - i left him after 3 years. But i regret the age i did it and how disrespectful i was being to my family. At age 24 i think to myself if i have children i wouldn't want them doing as i did.
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reader, starfairy +, writes (6 July 2008):
 Wait a couple of years...I was 15 when I lost mine, to be honest only did it because all my friends had lost theirs...i wish I had been stronger and waited for someone more special when I was a little older...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): Erm I guess you could stay around his, or an older friends?!
Thats the thing, its difficult. Your age is just too young. You have no independence, not many rights, no money, no home, no nothing. Time?! - Not a lot...
Yeah I love that idea too but I would rather do it properly. Also, messing around with adult stuff creates adult consequences. I.E. baby?!
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