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writes:I have been dating this guy for a year. He was nice at first but he had gotten meaner over the months. He makes fun of me, says negative things about me and make me feel bad all the time. I have tried breaking up with him several times. I even did the week break thing and it still didn’t work -- he cheated on me and I took him back because I hate to see him cry. He’s mean to me a lot and I don’t want to have to live with it but he has made all these plans to grow old together. I want to but just not in that kind of relationship...I met this guy the other day he treats me right and makes me feel happy. I’ve known him awhile he use to be a good friend of mine we went prom together. I really like him I want to breakup with my boyfriend to be with him but just thinking of that brings me to tears. Thinking of him being lonely makes me sad... I just don’t know how to break up without being sad or the cause of his death -- he said he would go suicidal if I ever broke up with him.Can someone please help me tell me how to break up with him so I can be with this guy...be with this guy...
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 hun why are you taking all this rubbish from this guy?
he's playing you!
he's emotionally blackmailing you to get you to stay with him.
he wouldn't kill himself he hasn't got the balls!!
he's just saying it because he knows it'll tug at your heart strings.
he's cheated on you!
he cried to get you to stay with him he says he's going to be alone without you
HOW COME HE CHEATED ON YOU THEN! that's not being alone is it?
he's playing you he wants you when he wants you he wants to control you and by the sounds of things he has control on you.
if you break up with then that's it break up with him i know it's difficult because of what he says but he honestly wouldn't do it.
he's not got the guts too do it he knows you won't carry on the break up with him so that why he's telling you he'll be suicidal and stuff.
it's sufforcating you.
you need to get out of there and get with this new guy!
it's unfair you're stuck in a loveless relationship because you're pretty much being emotionally blackmailed and made to feel guilty.
Hope this helps hun.
message me you need anything else.
Best of luck :) x x X x x
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reader, Aloneinsa  +, writes (27 April 2009):
Okay from all that you have said this is what I gather. You obviously dont love this guy. We at times know what we want but dont really see the writing on the wall. And this isno dubt you right now ! You have to come to terms and admit that your B/F is an abusive man. Any man who disrespects his woman calling her names and makin herself esteem go to the ground is emotionally abusive as well as mentally. So before you make descesions about another man, you need to get rid of your B/F. The reason he supposedly crys is to make you feel bad, and it works. At the moment he cant find another victim s fast so hewould use all he's got to keep you and if crying helps, he will use it. What ever it takes he will use it t keep you. My dear, he doesnt love you so stop dreaming of that either. He says something about growing old. Thats bull, trust me when I say that. Dont count on that cos if he really thinks that and you believe that, imagine growing old with an abususer. Is that what you want in your old age. What if his verbal abuse leads to physical while you gtting old together. These are a few questions you need to ask yourself. I hope you do take the wonderful advise you get from the people who care. Good Luck !
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (27 April 2009):
 You don't "love" him. You pity him. There is a difference. Let him go. Cut him off completely. Ignore his calls. Ignore his texts. Just let him go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): It takes a lot of self convincing and realization. You HAVE to stop thinking about his feelings. You just have to. I know it's hard trust me, but that's the only way. You care about him and you don't want to hurt him, but you have to do what's best for you. Think for yourself. Be a little selfish for once.
You know you won't be with him forever. You would be miserable and eventually, you would lose it and just end up leaving. The earlier you do it, the better. As of now, you are draggin him along on something that's ending is subject to no change.
don't have pity on his pathetic soul. He did you wrongly and is now making you feel aweful about trying to free yourself from his mutilating little grasp.
You need to stop being sad, concerned, and caring and get pissed.
Get angry that he cheated on you. Get angry that he cries and carries on like a pathetic little fool to make you feel sorry for him.
Get angry that he's threatening you with his life to hold you there and that he knows he's doing it and making you go crazy. Just get mad. Sop pitying and feeling bad.
When he cheated on you, he asked for it.
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